Love Relations Without Integrity Are Vulnerable To Red Flag, This Is Obviously An Expert

Illustration of red flags in a love relationship can be prevented with personal integrity (Freepic/KamranAymen)

YOGYAKARTA Integrity is based on two pillars, namely self-respect and loyalty to values. If in a love relationship, love is indeed one of the cornerstones for establishing a commitment. But integrity, it turns out that the basis for preventing red flags in relationships.

Cinta, quoted a review of Meg Selig in Psychology Today, Friday, March 3, can be a basis for stealing, cheating, risking safety. There are even people who harass physically, verbally, or sexually because of love. So there are 'alats' that must exist other than love in romantic relationships.

In one legendary story, Cinderella, longs for a handsome prince to live with forever. Selig as the writer of Silvermen: Thoughts on Growing Older, Tourist, and Happier, assumes that more women than men fall in love with romance scammers. Psychologist Kelly Campbell also explains that women tend to become 'victims' because of the orientation of relationships to care for others, hope for love stories like in fairy tales, or have dreams of always romantic stories of their love.

It does not mean love is not important, but love as a unique feeling that makes the body's natural chemistry flow hard, needs to be weighed clearly. This feeling can help bond with a partner, humanity, and encourage noble and generous actions.

The dark side, falling in love can be like an addiction to your lover. Only when the relationship goes well, love as a addiction is not a problem. But when love is manipulated to gain the advantage of one party, sadness, pressure, and anxiety hit.

Because it is unfair to blame victims of romance fraud. So loving naturally and establishing a healthy romantic relationship will be better. Self-esteem and values can be used as a basis for love stories. Self-esteem can include personal protection, survival, and personal care. Meanwhile, the values include values in relationships, such as being good, trustworthy, reliable, based on humanity, morals, honesty, and fulfilling obligations.

Maintaining the values you hold when someone manipulates you is not easy. Moreover, that person takes advantage of being reluctant to say 'no', you better want someone's comfort above personal safety, and that person you love. But admitting the problem is the first step to overcome the red flag. Some problems can be 'healed' with a good dose of assertiveness. Learning says 'no' is very important to keep your limits and to be honest with yourself and your values.