Qualityual Activities Are Mutual And Fun

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JAKARTA - Neuromuscular Medical Rehabilitation Doctor Faculty of Medicine, University of Indonesia - Cipto Mangunkusumo Hospital (FKUI - RSCM) dr. Herdiman B. Purba, SpKFR(K) said the characteristics of quality sexual activity are when a couple can be satisfying and fun with each other.

"The quality sex is fun and satisfying for both parties," said Herdiman, as quoted by Antara.

According to Herdiman, when having sex, men and women must have the same opportunity, not being selfish and busy with their own desires. Unfortunately, according to Herdiman, in Indonesia some people are wrong in responding to the popular expression "wife is in charge of serving her husband", because in sex husband and wife should serve each other.

"In fact, WHO states that one of the keys to a good quality of life is the quality of a healthy sexual life. We can imagine that if sexual activity is not balanced, in the context of someone serving and being served, of course this will be a problem," said Herdiman.

As a result of this expression, Herdiman said that many wives feel that sex is an task. They have sex just to fulfill their obligations, so they can't feel the pleasure.

"These words influence the awareness of Indonesian women that their job is to serve. Shouldn't husbands also serve their wives and the two of them serve each other for fun sexual activity?" said Herdiman.

"To speed up the process, he finally faked an orgasm. As if he was satisfied, let it be finished. We don't expect this," he continued.

Therefore, to get satisfying and fun sexual activity, Herdiman said husband and wife must be open to each other about what they want.

"It will be bad when you are happy with your own thoughts. For example, when you watch, how come there is oral sex, then the husband hopes that his wife will understand how to do that. But it never happened because it was never communicated," said Herdiman.

According to Herdiman, bad communication between husband and wife will be more difficult to overcome than erectile dysfunction and orgasm disorder. The reason, he said, is that it not only involves physical but also mental and ego.

"Talk about what your partner likes, how do you want it, what do you want me to do. That's one way to solve the problem," he concluded.