JAKARTA - Every couple certainly has their own habits or ways of managing relationships. Be it a habit in addressing problems, arguing, to controlling emotions.
If these habits give positive value, it will create a healthy relationship. On the other hand, if you tend to be negative, it will create an unhealthy relationship aka toxic relationship.
Launching Psych Central, Tuesday, January 17, here are the behaviors that cannot be tolerated in a romantic relationship.
Gaslighting is a form of manipulation that a person does to others so that the victim doubts himself and ultimately loses his perception, identity, and self-esteem. The marriage therapist and family, Janika Veasley, says gaslighting is one of the most common forms of emotional manipulation and toxic behavior that you should not tolerate.
Toxic behavior can come in the form of harsh criticism or sarcastic jokes that harm you. Although some couples enjoy the form of funny jokes. But if a joke is often made to hurt or make you less confident. So the couple's behavior should be avoided.
Another intolerable partner's behavior is when he tries to keep you out of social life. For example, asking you to cancel your exit promise with friends under the pretext that he will take you on a date. Or pretending to be sick so you don't visit your family home. You will realize this gradually after feeling away from your friends, family, or support system.
Silent treatment is a silence that is carried out by someone to other people, which in this attitude includes neglect to stop all forms of communication. Although there is no physical contact, silent treatment can be said to be a form of psychological violence because the impact can shake the victim's mental condition.
Threats can be hidden in plain words, but can often be spoken directly and are meant to scare you. Threats can be directed at you, but can also be directed at the things or the person you care about.
When you are annoyed with something your partner does, instead of apologizing, your partner will blame you for what he did. Like blaming can make you feel guilty. Over time the effect can cause you to lose your intuition in determining who is wrong and who is right in the relationship.
If your partner is controlling, you should try to avoid him or communicate together to solve this problem. Remember, there is no attitude of control in maintaining relationships. There is an attitude of respect for each other in order to create a lasting and harmonious relationship.
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