According To The Sexologist, Many Wives Are Reluctant To Express Their Sexual Desires In Their Husbands

Illustration (Cottonbro/Pexels)

JAKARTA - Gynecologist and sex consultant, dr. Boyke Dian Nugraha said that the wife's attitude towards her husband in sex has not changed much, because many wives are still reluctant to express their sexual desires.

Boyke said that many wives are ashamed to express their desires directly in front of their husbands, even though they have been married for decades.

"I met many patients like that, especially Javanese women. If the wife wants a relationship, they convey it in English or indirect signs," he told ANTARA.

According to him, this indirect signal could actually cause a husband's response that was different from what he wanted, because it was possible that the husband's psychological condition at that time was not able to digest what his wife required.

Boyke emphasized that the alignment and quality of husband and wife relations is very much determined by the attention of each party, which can only be built by communication with clear messages. The key to success in maintaining a husband and wife relationship, according to Boyke, is only one, namely the willingness of each party to pay attention.

How to care for a love that has been going on for decades, in front of hundreds of participants, most of whom are over 40 years of age, she said husband and wife must be willing to accept what their respective conditions are.

"Don't always compare the feelings of love with when we have love at a young age. However, both parties are obliged to maintain their appearance so that physical attraction remains," he said.

The language or idiom used by husband and wife, according to Boyke, must also be able to maintain their respective feelings. "Don't use words that contain ledekan to your partner," he said.