How Long Should A Kiss Last To Increase Intimacy? This Is According To The Study

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YOGYAKARTA – A number of studies show that kissing with a partner can reduce stress, improve physical health, and increase intimacy. So if calculated based on duration, how long should kissing increase intimacy?

Launching Psychology Today, John Gottman in his research found that six seconds is the duration of a kiss that can really make a connection with your partner. In fact, based on his studies, he recommends you have at least one 6-second kiss every day. John mentions the 6 second kiss as a 'kiss with potential'.

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Couples counselor Kari Rusnak, MA., LPC., explained that every couple needs to be truly connected so that they can more easily go through conflict and difficult times. Connection helps to view each partner in a positive light and focus on the things that are commendable rather than the things that are distracting. When the connection is truly strong, you are at the mercy of positive sentiment. It is a term used to describe couples who see a positive perspective in their relationship because of their strong relationship.

Kissing for six seconds, turns out to be beneficial in many aspects. In addition to feeling physically closer and building connections, it also leads to intimacy, prioritizing relationships, and ways to have fun. Rusnak suggests, try timing your kiss for 6 seconds to get a feel for its duration.

Rusnak also gives advice on when is the right time to kiss for six seconds. The best time is when you separate to do your own activities and when you get back together at the end of the day. Also take time to talk and chat after the kiss. And again, make kissing a daily habit to increase the connection.