YOGYAKARTA – Saying the arrangement of words to form a phrase, giving a certain impression. Especially if it is intended for couples and in warm moments of love. Certain phrases, sometimes considered obscene or rude if spoken without context. But when in bed with a partner, phrases that seduce and validate pleasure are important to say.

Dr Rachel Needle, licensed psychologist and co-director at Modern Sex Therapy Institutes, says when you're feeling sexy and confident and being creative with your words and imagination, you're more likely to feel comfortable trying new things, asking for what you want, and feel good about your sexuality.

Phrases when pronounced correctly can help you and your partner have a better and more meaningful sex life. In fact, speaking it can tell your partner that you want him, need him, enjoy what he is doing, and validate that the sex session is a lot of fun. Here are suggestions of phrases from sexuality experts that you can try and adapt to your needs.

“There, it feels really good!”

According to Doctor Needle's advice, these types of phrases communicate exactly what you enjoy, which is important to you and your partner. He added, good sex and good communication are interrelated. Because everyone has their own preferences, when the turn-on and turn-off will be different. So communicating what we want has to do with increased arousal and sexual satisfaction.

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Illustration of phrases to validate sexual pleasure according to sex therapist (iStockphoto)
"Tell me what you want me to do"

Sex therapist and clinical psychologist Daniel Sher says that giving your partner complete freedom and giving up feelings of power can open up new and exciting dimensions of pleasure. In the context of your sexual life with your partner, being open about what your partner wants is a great way to explore the concept of control. Be sure to have safe sex, with respect, and listen carefully to what your partner is saying or communicating.

“I want to make you feel happy”

Pleasure in the context of sex, not only orgasm. But when this phrase is spoken, according to Needle, it can help shed selfishness and greed in a sex session with a partner. When someone thinks about your pleasure, it is certainly very fun even though you need to stay focused and make your partner comfortable in trying new things.

“I've been thinking about this all day”

Couples are certainly challenged when listening to this phrase in a private room. Light Needle, reported by Fatherly, Wednesday, June 29, tells the person you love most that you've been thinking about him all day and looking forward to having sex with him, helping the ladder of desire slowly climb to the pinnacle of pleasure.

"How does it feel?"

These short but sweet phrases are important, says Sher. The phrases above, affect the brain differently than normal language. Sher explained again, this type of phrase can let your partner know that you are interested in satisfying their needs. In addition, it is also very important to deepen intimacy and improve the sex life of you and your partner.


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