How To Motivate Children Without Violence

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JAKARTA - When children lose their motivation to learn and be disciplined, many parents lose their patience. There are even some parents who react too harshly by giving punishments that are classified as violent to children.

Of course this is not an effective action to improve a child's behavior, in fact it can injure physically and mentally, which will carry over into adulthood. Then, how to motivate children to want to learn and discipline without violence? Here are some ways to motivate discipline, Adapt Parenting, Wednesday, June 15.

Make clear rules

Without rules, children will be confused and unfair if you just blame them. Rules also make it easier for you to remind your child when he makes a mistake.

Rules must be realistic

This rule should not be made up, make it difficult for children, and ignore their rights as children. For example, every day children have to study even during school holidays. Or, the child is still 3 years old, but has to be able to clean his own clothes. Of course, he would be in trouble.

It's good, if this rule is discussed with the child. Give a reason why the rule was created. For example, he is obliged to tidy up his books and school clothes at night so that no books or stationery are left behind and he can go to school on time.

Rules must be consistently applied

Don't blow your mind according to your parents' mood. For example, because there happens to be a good TV show during your child's study time, you leave the TV on. Children catch that rules can be twisted.

There are consequences if you violate

Children may participate in determining the consequences if they violate discipline. Parents need to remind and enforce this consequence firmly. However, make consequences that are fair, logical, and can provide a deterrent effect, not torturing children. Consequences were not punishment, nor were they something to embarrass or humiliate him with.

If the child is done with the consequences, there is no need to force the child to apologize or lecture him. Encourage him to behave according to the rules.

Give the best example

Children are obliged to clean up their bedroom, but you rely on ART to clean up your bedroom. Yes, that means you are not setting an example. Discipline yourself and your partner first before disciplining your child.