Signs Of An Abusive Relationship

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JAKARTA - Abusive relationships are not only physical, but also emotional, which is often a precursor to abusive relationships. The trick can be done subtly, making it difficult to gauge whether a relationship has been colored by violence or not. However, there are actually signs you can look out for. Here are three of them as quoted from ANTARA, Friday, April 29.

1. Be showered with love and gifts One of the first signs you may be in an abusive relationship is when your partner showers you with love, gifts and attention. The start of an abusive relationship may be quick and intense to make you depend on him.

"Vacation, gifts, constant contact, or too much information and too many strong interests overall. Narcissistic relationships often start too quickly - this is then followed by a cycle of devaluation and ups and downs," says clinical psychologist and narcissism expert, Ramani. Durvasula.

2. There is gaslighting Therapist and co-founder of Viva Wellness in NYC, Jor-El Caraballo says, a practice called gaslighting usually occurs in abusive relationships. "Gaslighting is trying to make someone believe what they're seeing isn't actually true.

This can happen even under the simplest of circumstances, such as an abusive partner insisting their partner leave the dirty dishes in the sink when he or she is doing it themselves," he says. The abuser uses gaslighting to make the victim question their perception of reality, which prevents them from seeing the abusive behavior. partner.” Gaslighting rarely happens once.

Abusers use them to distrust their partner's own thoughts and feelings, then give the abuser more power to exercise control. Selfish need," said Caraballo.

3. Control your relationship with the outside world Your partner may start small, telling you not to contact certain friends. "Obviously it's important to explore how you can engage with other people online, but a partner who 'don't let' you use social media or have a DM conversation, for example, is a serious warning sign," Caraballo says.

Oftentimes, he will start to limit the way you interact with family and friends to isolate you from the outside world. "Someone who constantly says negative things about a friend or family member that you love and care about may also show a tendency to control and isolate in the long term," says Caraballo.

Racial and gender identities can be used by abusers to make their partners feel worse and gain power in a relationship