Often Fight Over The Same Topic, Here Are 5 Ways To End Wisely

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YOGYAKARTA – Different arguments are normal situations. But arguing about the same topic every time you have an argument with your partner is certainly not fun.

Avoiding arguments isn't the best way, but managing them is the trick. In relationships, everyone has their own thoughts and point of view. One cannot force one thing, so by exchanging arguments, couples can find a middle ground. However, if you are discussing the same topic and don't get an answer, then follow this method to get a happy ending in a wiser way.

1. Stop and take a moment

Brian Wind, a licensed clinical psychologist and professor at Vanderbilt University who lives in Murfreesboro, Tennessee, suggests that you need to ask yourself how to get what you want to say without being hurtful. For example, conveying calm, easy-to-understand sentences, and responding as acknowledgment. Wind said, most people tend to calm down once they feel recognized and awaited.

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2. Consider improvement efforts

So that the problem does not spread out of control, consider remedial efforts. According to psychologist John Gottman in his book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, remedial efforts reduce the potential for conflict to occur. So, reported by Psych Central, Thursday, March 31, discuss with your partner to make efforts to improve without offending him.

3. Limit time to 10 minutes

If you suddenly feel irritated, avoid saying something you might regret. Before peaking, ask for 10 minutes to take a break. Let your partner know that it takes 10 minutes to calm down and will come back to talk about unresolved topics. Then come back calmly and work out the differences.

4. Think about relationships

Why the same topic is always a problem, maybe there is a background. But the advice of Ari Hanh, a licensed social worker, behind the backdrop of the argument is a connection to consider. Different arguments are natural, especially if you and your partner have a mature vision of a relationship. That means, you need to think about the importance and maturity of the relationship so that problems don't get bigger and damage the relationship.

5. Avoid problems and meet your partner

Avoiding is not the solution, although it can protect you a bit from an argument. It's good that you and your partner meet and fix things. A licensed clinical psychologist in Greenwich, Connecticut, to deal with arguments make sure not to avoid other people. Give yourself the time it needs, but never ignore it.

That's a wise step to end an argument on the same topic with your partner. When the five steps above do not lead to a solution, you can seek help from the closest person or professional.