Knowing The Effects Of White Lies On Children, Lying For Good Turns Out To Be Bad

Illustration of the effect of lying to children for good or white lies (Pexels/Ketut Subiyanto)

JAKARTA – Have you ever persuaded children with lies to obey their parents' directions? For example, say 'eat a lot to be strong like Superman'. This is not recognized as a lie but the explanation simplifies the cause and effect of eating. It's not always that eating a lot makes you strong, and eating a little makes you weak. This kind of lie is known as white lies, telling lies to get a good cause.

Lying about trivial things, another example of being told they were going to play in the park but instead went to the dentist. Frequently saying sentences that are not in accordance with the facts not only create problems for the future but also affect his childhood. Reported by Bright Side, Thursday, January 27, saying lies shows that they can be affected by this. The bad effect, here below.

Make your child anxious

Research has shown that anxiety and lying go hand in hand when parents lie to their children. The reasons for committing white lies may be many, but the goal is to make children obey or do good things.

Influence your relationship with your baby

The bond between parent and child is often weakened by lies. At the beginning, they say things that are not based on facts, for example, when they play with their gadgets often, children will believe it. But once they find out the truth then the feelings of disappointment and trust problems can be experienced by children.

Children imitate their parents

Parents are the closest and most trusted people to children. If they are lied to, they tend to hide the truth from their parents. Instead of lying, parents should try to explain based on reason and logic. Honesty and truth, for children mean for their future. They can feel confident enough to share their problems with their parents or solve them appropriately.

Quoting Unair News, a psychology lecturer at Airlangga University, Dr. Nurul Hartini, S.Psi., M.Kes., said that language that does not hurt children's hearts and good communication methods can be accepted by children rather than lying for good. His advice, try to communicate openly, because when children find out that their parents are lying, they will distance themselves.

Parents are sources of information that are considered valid by their children. When it is colored by lies, and is done often, it is not impossible for children to doubt and tend to do the same thing, which is to lie to build a safe distance.