7 Tricks To Be More Intimate With Your Partner When Making Love

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JAKARTA – Every couple has a way to build closeness, both emotional and physical closeness. Both need to be combined when the couple has sexual activity. According to Los Angeles-based sex therapist and author of Love Skills, Linda De Villers, Ph.D. say that connecting with your partner makes you feel wanted and sparks arousal.

De Villers provides a trick every couple needs to know. The tricks below can help you and your partner connect with each other so as to make sex moments more intimate.

1. Enjoy the moment together

Don't rush, says De Villers, when you enjoy every session, from foreplay to penetration and more 'hot' sessions afterward, you and your partner will feel more connected.

"Feeling emotionally close is about taking it easy," explains De Villers.

After spending a lot of time on foreplay, ask your partner to penetrate slowly. De Villers explained, asking him to slide and then pull out once or twice before submerging completely.

2. Look into your partner's eyes

Looking into each other's eyes when making love, is a way to connect deeply. If your partner closes their eyes, ask them to open their eyes. Looking into each other's eyes can also help you stay focused and build a more intense atmosphere.

3. Kissing

De Villers says that kissing while making love is an act of deepening the relationship. If you're facing each other, slow down and lock your partner's lips for a minute or two.

4. Wipe your partner's face with both hands

Providing stimulation to sensitive points is necessary, such as the breasts, buttocks, groin, back. But don't forget this part, says De Villers. Wipe your partner's face with both hands because it's very intimate and gentle, she says.

5. Regulate the breath

So that movement and breath do not catch up with each other, try to adjust the rhythm so that it is more in tune. Match your inhale and exhale with your partner, making sure to stay focused on each other.

"Synchronized breathing is part of the tantric approach to sex, which is all about forming a union," says sex therapist De Villers.

Place your hand on his chest until you feel the rhythm. Let your body follow the stimulus until it responds. Breathing not only calms you down, it also leads to more satisfying sex.

6. Feel every sensation

Whether in the spooning position or the missionary or cowgirl position, the friction of the skin, the rhythm, and the closeness of the body give rise to their respective sensations. According to De Villers, feeling every sensation helps you and your partner make love moments more intimate.

7. Say phrases that describe your relationship with your partner

Besides sighing, saying words like 'I feel very close to you', 'I love you inside of me', or other phrases that describe your relationship with your partner contribute to increasing intimacy during lovemaking.