5 Tricks To Regulate Breathing To Make Love Last Longer

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JAKARTA – Various ways without drugs can be done to last longer together in bed with a partner. Preparations before 'battle' are also often needed such as getting enough sleep, maintaining stamina, to adding a reference position in making love.

But it turns out that this one thing is often overlooked, namely regulating breathing before and during sex. According to Kait Scalisi, a sex educator, paying attention to breathing during sex is one of the easiest ways to increase endurance in bed. Scalisi recommends the following breathing exercises to relax, focus and hold on longer.

1. Activate pelvic floor muscles

Deep breathing engages the muscles that run between the tailbone and pubic bone. These muscles will contract during orgasm and connect with the core of the body.

“When you take a deep breath, it engages your pelvic floor,” says Scalisi.

If you're having a hard time distinguishing between regular breathing and breathing exercises that prolong your endurance during sex, Scalisi adds, deep breathing sounds like a moan or sigh rather than a high-pitched tension.

2. Breathe into your body

Scalisi's recommendation, deep breathing during sex helps the genitals to focus on increasing pleasure. As pleasure increases, think about taking deep breaths up to the genitals. This helps focus the focus on it and increases the sensation leading up to orgasm.

3. Take a deep breath

Taking deep breaths helps achieve deeper, stronger, and longer lasting orgasms. Unfortunately, many people often rely on shallow breathing to affect pleasure. Deep breathing, says Scalisi, can also help you connect more with your partner.

4. Breathe only through the nose

Often the breath passes through the mouth during sex, but Scalisi's advice is to breathe through the nose. Breathing through the nose carries more oxygen than breathing through the mouth. Breathing through the nose gives more sensation than nitric oxide and engages the core and pelvic floor differently. This takes practice, as it becomes more difficult to practice when the bed starts to heat up.

5. Keep calm

Deep breathing is key to staying calm as it is linked to the parasympathetic nervous system which is responsible for the 'rest and digest' response. For many people with lower stress will also experience sex that is more intimate, exciting, and satisfying.

On the other hand, shallow breathing is related to the neural 'flight or fight' response. That is, breathing exercises can help each partner get a great sensation of making love.

Scalisi also suggests doing a little yoga before bed. As with inhaling through your nose and imagine your pelvic floor moving down and away as if arching your body. As you exhale, feel that part of your body lift.

By doing the breathing mentioned above, attention will focus on the pelvic floor and ready to increase the sensation of every reaction such as pounding, blowing, licking, to deeper penetration.