In Order Not To Behave Rudely, Here Are 5 Things To Avoid In Educating Children

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JAKARTA - There are many things that children can learn from their father, ranging from discipline, toughness, perseverance, how to be responsible, empathetic attitude, or even not giving up.

Therefore, the presence of fathers in educating children is very much needed. The involvement of fathers in raising children can have a positive impact such as increasing good behavior or children's academic achievements.

Therefore, fathers need the right approach in educating their children. Wayne Parker, author of Power Dads: The Ten Basic Principles Successful Fathers Use to Raise Responsible and Happy Children, reported by Parenting, November 15, said that mistakes made by a father in educating his children, will be an obstacle for the children themselves in future. He mentioned ten things that fathers should avoid in educating their children, namely:

Disciplining Children with Anger

It is undeniable, being a patient parent is not easy. However, you shouldn't be angry. Anger is a normal emotion that can be felt by every human being, including parents. It's just that, you must first resolve your anger before interacting with the child.

Giving Physical Punishment to Children

Hitting, pinching, pinching, and pushing children, you should not do. Whatever the reason, this method will not be effective. "It teaches a child that the way to deal with conflict is to use physical force," says Parker. Parker also adds, "Remember, your primary role is the teacher."

Inconsistent

Sometimes you can do this, sometimes you can't. Sometimes your child has to accept the consequences for doing something, sometimes he is also released. In essence, the father is not consistent in applying the rules and consequences. Sometimes, rules are enforced according to dad's mood. If you are thin, everything is prohibited. If you are happy, anything is allowed. Don't do this, okay?

Bribing Children

Promising your child something like a gift to make him do something or behave in your favor is tantamount to bribery. According to Parker, this only teaches children to be inferior because they think that they only deserve a reward if they obey their parents. Or conversely, they will also think that they should get a reward for everything their parents like. In addition, pampering children with gifts also has several other bad effects.

Making Children Feel Guilty

When they are upset with their children, it is not uncommon for parents to make their children feel guilty because they have to make their parents sacrifice. Parker advised that children should not be responsible for what you experience or how you feel.