Curious to Explore, a Lovemaking Style That Not All Couples Dare to Do

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JAKARTA - When having sex, each couple has their own preferences. Some like having sex in a conventional style, but there are also those who like to do it in an unusual style. Sometimes these styles are curious, but unfortunately not all couples dare to do it.

According to sex experts, there are several different sexual relationship styles that many couples want to try. Here are the styles, quoted from Huffpost, on Monday, December 15, 2025.

1. BDSM

Since the trilogy of the film Fifty Shades was released, the BDSM (bondage and discipline, dominance and submission) sexual relationship style has made many people curious to do it. This is a sexual style where people explore the dynamics of power, trust, and vulnerability.

"Various activities, including power games, consensual pain or restraint for mutual pleasure," said sex therapist, Tom Murray.

Murray said many people want to do BDSM not only because of the sensation of physical pleasure, but also related to emotional and psychological games.

"For many people, this is not just a physical sensation, but an emotional and psychological relationship, which can be very satisfying," he added.

2. Role-play

Role-play or role-play is a style of sexual relationship when a couple uses a different persona in an erotic context. Role-play allows each individual to try out the desired fantasy or identity when having sex, so it is very popular.

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"Roleplay allows individuals to explore parts of their identity or fantasies that may feel inaccessible in everyday life," Murray explained.

3. Orgasm control

Orgasmic control is a sexual practice where you hold your partner or yourself in an aroused state for a long time, before finally reaching orgasm.

"The goal is to experience intentional orgasm rejection or delay, which can build incredible arousal and excitement," says sex therapist Janet Brito.