JAKARTA - The decision to have children is not simple. Many modern couples are currently considering various factors before deciding to start a family, ranging from emotional readiness to financial stability.
These factors not only reflect personal conditions, but also the social and economic dynamics that develop in society.
According to Sani B Hermawan, a family psychologist from the University of Indonesia, material readiness is one of the main determinants in the decision to have children. Couples usually calculate whether they have sufficient facilities and funds to meet their children's needs in the future.
"They will see how much can be set aside for children, what kind of life they want to build on, and whether they are ready on a place to live, for example, they still live with their parents or are already able to be independent," Sani explained, as quoted by ANTARA.
Preparedness in terms of finance is generally a concern for the upper middle class, who tend to be more educated and take into account the future of children rationally. They often feel doubtful, questioning whether they are able to provide the best quality of life for their children, especially if they are accompanied by work pressure or career demands.
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On the other hand, in low-income groups, the decision to have children often goes more naturally and is not much influenced by material planning. Sani added that this group often accepts the presence of children as part of life, without thinking too much about financial readiness factors.
However, non-material or emotional factors also have a big influence. Mental and emotional readiness is often a challenge in itself for couples. Concerns about failure to care for children, fear of child health, or insecurity as a parent can be an obstacle.
"Sometimes fear arises, for example, fear of failing to become a parent or fear that children will grow unhealthy. For that, it is important for partners to discuss with their closest psychologists or people who are experienced to be more stable," said Sani.
He also emphasized that feelings of not being ready can be present at any time, even after the child is born. Parents need to realize that the process of raising children is a long journey that requires continuous adjustments. There is always room to learn and improve parenting patterns in order to give the best.
Furthermore, Sani reminded that the decision to have children must be a mutual agreement. If only one party wants it, it can cause tension in the relationship, and ultimately have a negative impact on the family as a whole.
The decision to have children must be born from the awareness of both parties. Otherwise, it can create a sense of unfairness in relationships that have a long impact," he concluded.
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