Memaknai Pernikahan Adat Jawa Kaesang Dan Erina

Kaesang Pangarep and Erina Gudono on the aisle after undergoing a contract at Royal Ambarrukmo, Yogyakarta on Saturday 10 December 2022. (President Jokowi's YouTube)

JAKARTA - Allen Adam Rinaldi Gudono acted as the marriage guardian for his younger brother Erina Gudono. He held the hand of Kaesang Pangarep while reading the consent statement. That was one of the scenes in Kaesang and Erina's marriage contract at Royal Ambarrukmo, Yogyakarta on Saturday afternoon 10 December 2022.

Ananda Kaesang Pangarep, son of Mr. H. Joko Widodo, I married Ananda to Mrs. H. Muhammad Gudono's daughter to marry herself in the form of a set of prayer tools, 10, 12, 20, 22 grams of precious metals, and Rp. 300 thousand in cash paid in cash.

Kaesang without stuttering replied, "I accept the marriage of Erina Sofia Gudono bint Muhammad Gudono with the dowry paid in cash."

Minister of State Secretary Pratikno and Minister of Public Works and Public Housing Basuki Hadimoeljono who acted as a marriage witness declared legal. Head of KUA Depok District Muhammad Wiyono, Sleman who acted as the leader immediately ratified the consent statement. This means that Kaesang and Erina are officially husband and wife.

"Alhamdulillah," said Kaesang with a relieved and happy face while pointing his hands at his face as a form of gratitude. Erina also with a happy face seemed to do the same thing.

The atmosphere of the marriage ceremony for the third child of President Joko Widodo (Jokowi), Kaesang and Erina at the Royal Ambarrukmo Hall, Yogyakarta on December 10, 2022, was solemn. Attended by family and closest relatives, which reportedly only limited to 150 invitations.

In his lecture after the marriage ceremony procession, Indonesian Vice President Ma'ruf Amin reminded that households are miniatures of society. The function of households in social life is very important. People will be good when their households are also good, and vice versa.

Meanwhile, marriage in the Koran is called a strong agreement because it involves agreements to live together all time. In fact, the agreement made by the husband is an agreement with God, the wife is only an intermediary.

"Therefore, you are Kaesang, when you say I accept her marriage / marriage, it means you are pledging to Allah SWT," said Ma'ruf Amin.

Let's straighten out the intention. Ensure that marriage is carried out on the basis of worship. Because, according to Ma'ruf, many practices seem modest but become afterlife practice, VALuate for good intentions. On the other hand, many practices that seem to be the deeds of the afterlife, but turn into deeds of the earth without compensation, even guilty because their intentions are not good.

"I also remind the long-standing lenders, whose intentions may not have been straight before, not yet correct, I recommend another intention. To renew his intention, strengthen his intention so that the rest of the marriage is blessed by Allah SWT," said the Vice President.

Accept your wife with all the strengths and weaknesses that exist. Accept your husband with all the advantages and weaknesses as they are. No husband is perfect, no wife is perfect," Ma'ruf Amin added marriage advice to the bride and groom.

Make your household a harmonious, harmonious, and peaceful household. Love each other and full of love. This is what is always said with contemporary, mawaddah, warohmah.

After the marriage ceremony, the wedding procession of Kaesang and Erina continued to the Yogyakarta peranggihadat ceremony. Panggih is a Javanese traditional meeting procession between the bride and groom after officially marrying religiously.

Djoko Mulyono in the book 'Mutiara Behind the Java Bridal Procedures' said the group was the culmination of the Javanese traditional wedding ceremony.

There are several rituals carried out in the Kaesang and Erina wedding ceremony, including:

Sanggan is a symbol or suggestion to redeem the bride and groom, so it is usually called the handling of the women's cantin ransom. The form of the hand is in the form of one bag or two banana combs of cooked trees, betel Ayu, telon flowers (mawa, jasmine, memang), and other threads. All of them are arranged in a special container in the form of woven baskets. The organizers are in front of the group of the groom's family.

This is a procession of throwing seeds at each other in the form of betel leaves that are twisted containing betel nut flowers, betel lime, gambir, black tobacco between the two brides as a symbol of love.

Kaesang and Erina threw the rangal alternately within two meters. Kaesang first threw his right hand right at Erina's body. Then Erina did the same. Continuing to throw each other with his left hand.

This procession is also called processionupada.Women wash the groom's feet. Has the meaning as a marker of the bride's service to the groom. The wife positions her husband as a leader for her family, respects and is devoted to her husband because her husband has received the mandate from her guardian.

Also eliminating obstacles so that the goal of traveling to a happy family is kept away from difficulties and distress.

After undergoing the procession, Kaesang and Erina walked hand in hand to the aisle chair followed by the bride and groom's parents.

Sofiatun Gundono, Erina's parents gave Kaesang and Erina young coconut water drinks. This procession has the meaning of showing harmony and togetherness, that everything sweet is not enjoyed by yourself, but must be shared with the whole family.

This procession is said to have symbolically shown the responsibility of the husband to provide sustenance to his wife and family, while the wife must be smart in regulating and managing it so as not to be wasteful or scattered so that it can be fulfilled.

In this procession the groom carefully and lightly poured the rich (mixed grains, fireworks, and coins) from the woven pandan mat to the wrapping cloth placed on the bride's lap.

All of his wealth was then carefully wrapped by the bride, so that no one would be scattered. Then, Kaesang and Erina handed over to the bride and groom.

"God gave the mandate from the womb of Sofiatun Gudono to give birth to a beautiful, healthy, smart, polite, and friendly baby girl. Now we know the secret of God to provide the womb of Mrs. Sofiatun Gudono to give birth to a woman accompanying Kaesang," said the wedding guide for Kaesang and Erina.

The klimah celadhahar described the harmony of husband and wife which would bring happiness to the family he built. Kaesang made three small arms of yellow rice and gave it to Erina. Put it on the plate held by Erina. Then, Erina ate it.

In this procession, the parents of the groom, Joko Widodo and Iriana came to visit their son who had become a bride and groom, side by side with the bride. The bride's parents picked up Jokowi and Irian. In the Javanese wedding tradition, the bride's parents were not allowed to attend the ceremony until the procession was pointed out.

The series of processions continued with sungkeman, namely the bride and groom prostrate to their parents asking for their blessing. The ritual of sungkeman as a statement, a sign of child's devotion to parents who have raised and educated to adulthood, an apology to both parents for all mistakes and mistakes, giving prayers and blessings to parents to become a happy family. Sungkeman started from the parents of the bride and continued to the parents of the groom.

"We apologize profusely if the implementation of the Kaesang and Erina wedding series disturbs the comfort of the community, especially the people of Yogyakarta and Surakarta," Jokowi said in his Twitter account on December 10, 2022.