The Pretext Of "The Prophet's Sunnah" To Commodify Polygamy Dwarves The Apostles

Hafidin's polygamist mentor (Photo: screenshot on Twitter)

JAKARTA - The polygamy training mentor, Hafidin, is back in the limelight after his interview with Narasi went viral. His quotes have sparked a lot of controversy. Indeed, polygamy is not prohibited as long as its obligations to the wife are not neglected. But campaigning for polygamy is also not an important thing to do, let alone to become a commodity.

Recently, more and more people are voicing for polygamy. In the digital era, polygamous activists are increasingly engaging in society.

Polygamy, which used to be private, is now used for public consumption through paid mentor classes. The monetization of the issue of polygamy has also begun.

Not long ago, quotes from the polygamous Mentor Hafidin were scattered on Twitter social media. Not a few words that are considered shocking netizens.

For example, the historical activist @mazzini_gsp account, he also highlighted the coach's motivation to voice the polygamy movement. In the video interview with Narasi, Hafidin believes that Muslim awareness is now getting stronger, marked by the victory of the Muslim Taliban.

"I have optimism that in 2025, the splendor of polygamy will be even stronger. The victory in the Taliban has already happened, yes, because Islam is back now," Hafidin said in the Narrative video.

((Taliban victory)) https://t.co/K6dltmJPfp pic.twitter.com/Q1j14DuqAj

— Mazzini (@mazzini_gsp) November 17, 2021

Currently, it is known that Hafidin has four wives. Umu Naila (second wife), Amirah Salsabila (Kegita's wife), Fidah (fourth wife).

Hafidin admitted that in total he had married six women. The other two wives are divorced. One reason is because his old wife has gone through menopause.

"Suddenly menopause. Then I said I still want to have many children," said Hafidin.

One of the things that was highlighted on the timeline was when Hafidin decided to have polygamy without his wife's permission.

"Like this wife, when I want to get married, my wife doesn't know that I want to get married... Why do I get permission? Is my wife the head of the service?" said Hafidin. So how does Islam actually view polygamy?

Not a commodity

To answer this question, the preacher Ustaz Ahong quoted the book of Fiqh Islami wa Adilatuhu by Wahbah al-Zuhaili, a Syrian cleric who often went back and forth to Indonesia. And according to him, polygamy is neither recommended nor prohibited.

"Wahbah al-Zuhaili in the book of Islamic Fiqh wa Adillatuhu, Syrian clerics often go back and forth to Indonesia, arguing that polygamy is neither recommended nor prohibited. This means that the law is permissible," Ustaz Ahong told VOI.

According to Ustadz Ahong, in Islam a husband has the right to polygamy but in an urgent situation. "Polygamy is a way out when for example there is someone who needs an urgent need. For example, the wife is sick."

"It is better if the wife is taken care of by her husband until she recovers. But the husband also has the right to polygamy or divorce his wife," said Ustaz Ahong.

Dwarf the Apostle

Many people are polygamous and campaign for polygamy on the pretext of carrying out the sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad. In fact, said Ustaz Ahong, if you look at the history of the life of the Prophet Muhammad, monogamy was longer than polygamous.

"That is, when he lived with Khadijah's mother, it was very monogamous. He even advised his son-in-law, Ali's best friend, not to polygamy his daughter, Fatimah. Because that could hurt him," explained Ustaz Ahong.

Ustaz Ahong also thought that the Apostle was polygamous. First, it wasn't what he wanted. The initiative for polygamy emerged from the sympathy of his friends when the Apostle traveled to various corners of the country.

"Because he is a leader of the Islamic world. The friends then sympathized with the Apostle. It's a pity that there is no one to take care of it, no one to accompany it, in the end it was offered to a female friend of Khaulah," said Ustaz Ahong.

Khaulah, said Ustaz Ahong, was a friend of the prophet who first proposed the Apostle to marry Siti Aisyah. "But Siti Aisyah didn't live at home with the Apostle at that time. When she grew up, she just lived at home."

And said Ustaz Ahong, on average the wife who was polygamous by the Apostle was a widow. "Only Siti Aisyah is not."

"It means that people who are campaigning for polygamy under the pretext of the Sunnah of the Prophet, their affairs with their polygamous family are not fighting, that is another matter. But if they argue that they are selling the Sunnah of the Prophet, it belittles the Apostle," said Ustaz Ahong.

What is my concern in this video narration about polygamy is the reason for polygamy which is far from the reason the Prophet SAW practiced polygamy, while the thing that is echoed is polygamy imitating the Prophet Muhammad (sunnah). Polygamy here is like validation of lust----pic.twitter .com/y9S5xFEd4K

— Saf (@safirawwww) November 18, 2021

No need to campaign

Meanwhile, Ustaz Ahong criticized those who campaign for polygamy. Even though something legally permissible, such as polygamy, does not need to be broadcast. Moreover, it is used as a trading commodity.

"There's no need to campaign like that, let alone make it a commodity. It's as if the Prophet was like that," said Ustaz Ahong.

Ustaz Ahong also highlighted one of the conditions for polygamy which according to him must not escape the wife's permission. This, said Ustaz Ahong, is contained in the book of the Islamic Law Collection.

"If people want to remarry (polygamy) it must be with his wife's permission. If his wife is still healthy, they can still be together, then he wants to remarry and the wife does not allow it, the wife has the right to file for divorce," he said.

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