Knowing Consent, 5 Things You Need To Agree With Your Partner Before Sexual Activity
JAKARTA – Sexual consent is an agreement or consensual agreement from both parties, such as you and your partner, which is primarily made for sexual activity. This agreement needs to be made, the aim is to avoid unwanted things, such as violence or sexual harassment.
So that the flow of sexual activity remains comfortable and no one feels forced or forced, then identify the following 5 things.
1. Agreements must be made explicitAgreements are made when spoken verbally. Merely making deals with body language or gestures has the potential to be misunderstood. Consent also cannot be made based on one person's assumptions. This means, it is important for you and your partner to evaluate and make consensual every time you engage in sexual activities such as kissing and making out.
2. The agreement can be changedThere are various aspects of life that affect sexual activity. Even with you and your partner who are not always passionate about making love with various factors. For example, when you have sexual desire but your partner is not in the mood.
This means that you need to make a re-deal. If you verbally agree that the activity can be continued, then also agree on what will be done, starting from the choice of style to setting the atmosphere so that both parties feel comfortable.
3. Pay attention to body languageExpression can be captured through two languages, namely verbal language and body language. If you and your partner have verbally consented to sexual activity, it is also important to recognize and understand your partner's body language.
If your partner feels uncomfortable, ask him what makes him feel that way and make a new agreement if you choose to lead the lovemaking session.
4. It's okay if you walk slowly or stopOn certain occasions, such as a flash of sexual activity, it's okay to refuse if you don't want it. It's also okay if you provide input when you feel uncomfortable. To be sure, you need to share everything you feel with your partner and vice versa.
5. Consensual made with full awarenessIn some cases, sexual violence occurs while under the influence of alcoholic beverages. This is what makes consent unable to be made, because the agreement needs to be made with full awareness so as not to hurt, humiliate, and still be able to carry out healthy sexual activities.