Problems To Face If You Are Too Independent Or Hyper-Independence

JAKARTA - In modern times that really appreciate independence, you are taught that not relying on others is pride. Where this is an image of power that is often proud of. However, behind this strong self image, there is a hidden psychological phenomenon that actually hurts emotionally: hyper-independence or extreme independence. In his writing, according to Psychology Today, Thursday, Gina DeMillo Wagner revealed that being too independent can be a curse, because it is often rooted in childhood wounds and trauma that makes a person suppress his own needs to survive.

Wagner shared his personal experience as a partied child' who was responsible for taking care of relatives or family from an early age. So he learned to hide his needs from a young age.

This pattern is formed as a strategy to survive: I can take care of everything myself. However, as we get older, this extreme independence forms a wall between himself and others, blocking a sincere relationship and eroding inner closeness.

One of the important awarenesss that Wagner revealed was: receiving assistance is not a sign of weakness, but a manifestation of strength.

For some people who grow up with the burden of carrying responsibility alone, opening up to be helped can feel odd or even dangerous. But the reality is, continuing to hold everything back itself can lead to physical and emotional fatigue aka 'burnout' which is secretly destructive.

Furthermore, Wagner highlighted the concept of service and attention in relations. In childhood, aid is often transactional, 'good' comes with a note, and he feels obliged to retaliate or 'pay' that affection.

Now, as an adult, he learns that in a healthy relationship, providing support does not always have to be counted. Sincere affection does not demand a coupon instead, and every human being deserves attention without having to pay a fee.

Finally, the softest message from Wagner's writing is that there are no medals for those who suffer alone. Everyone deserves to ask for help, and in a community that cares about each other, true power lies in the courage to be fragile to open up, share the burden, and accept that you don't have to go through everything yourself to become strong.