Feeling Sad After A Satisfactory Sex Meeting? Doctors Express The Cause

JAKARTA - Having a satisfying sex can not always have the effect of happiness. Some people may experience sadness after having a satisfying sex.

This condition is known as post-coital dysphoria (PCD) or post-sex blues. This condition can be experienced both women and men, which are often influenced by biological and psychological factors.

Starting from hormonal changes after orgasm, feelings of discomfort about the body or sexual performance, past trauma, stress, or overflowing emotions such as feelings of guilt.

Some of my clients, especially men with sex addiction, reported that post-coital dysphoria occurred because it was deep down, they knew there was no link between them and their sleeping partner, said sex therapist Kimberly Resnick Anderson, quoted by Huffpost, on Monday, November 17, 2025.

The assumption that a couple doesn't really like sex that is done can also lead to PCD. This results in shame and guilt to emerge, so sadness after sex is inevitable.

"If you believe your partner is just not really interested in sex, it can lead to shame and guilt," he added.

To deal with the condition of the PCD, here are some ways you can do it.

1. Open communication with your partner

The first step that can be done to overcome PCD is to communicate openly with your partner. Talk to your partner about how you feel after sex.

Building a supportive and emotionally secure environment is very important. Couples can provide the necessary support, such as hugs or simply being near you, which can help relieve the symptoms of PCD.

2. Accept your feelings

Feel good about your feelings when you have PCD, because it is a real and general condition, and your feelings are valid. Realizing that this condition is usually temporary can help reduce concerns and prevent feelings of getting sadder.

3. Identification of triggers

Identification of the trigger for the occurrence of PCD in you, such as relationship conflicts, guilt, or physical discomfort during sex. Identifying this trigger can help you and your partner to manage it better.

4. Consult professionally

If PCD often occurs, is intense, and has interfered with daily relationships or lives, it is recommended to consult with a therapist or sex counselor. By consultation, you can be assisted in identifying the causes and strategies for its more effective handling.