Parenting Expert Reveals Secrets, Aunt Can Have More Effect Than Mothers In Girls' Life

JAKARTA - In parenting, the role of parents is often the center of attention. However, parenting experts are now highlighting another figure who turns out to be no less important in the growth and development of girls, namely aunts.

Not only as an additional family member, but aunt is considered to have a strategic position in providing emotional support, guidance, and a sense of security outside the relationship between parents and children.

A well-known psychologist from Australia and author of Raising Girls and 10 Things Girls Need Most,Steve Biddulph, said that an aunt, whether blood relations or not, could become a pillar of mental health for girls.

In Biddulph'sParental as Everything podcast on ABC Australia, Biddulph explains girls, especially as a teenager, often need adults who are not as emotionally close as parents.

"They may not want to listen to their parents, but they still need a lot of help," said Biddulph, quoted from the Parents page.

This is where the presence of the aunt becomes very meaningful. Aunt is considered capable of being a good listener without pressure, and being a safe place to tell stories when the child feels unable to speak to his parents.

Biddulph emphasized that anyone can become an aunt figure, not necessarily related to blood. The most important thing is about emotional closeness and concern for children. This figure can be a guide, protector, or just a neutral vent.

"Tante is anyone who is the same age as my own and loves you too. They can give a sense of security and be loyal friends in difficult times," he said.

According to Biddulph, it is important for parents to build their child's relationship with their aunt from an early age. The closeness that has been built since childhood will make children feel more comfortable and confident, especially when facing difficult phases in their life.

The same thing was also conveyed by Maggie Dent, author of parenting and host ofParental as Everything. He considered that in the midst of the mental and social pressures experienced by today's children, the presence of a supportive adult figure is very important.

"Children need more than one adult who care about their lives. Sometimes, just one person can make a big difference." said Dent.

In various cases, girls who are close to their aunt tend to be more open, confident, and feel understood. They have a place to return when they feel not understood by the world around them.

The role of aunt is not to replace parents, but to complete it. With a more relaxed approach and without a burden on authority, aunts can become a bridge between children and the outside world.