Study: Hobby Couples Go On A Go To Make Relationships Happier

JAKARTA - Who would have thought, this habit that is often considered bad turns out to have a positive side. The latest research from the University of California, Sungey found that couples who like to join together tend to have a more harmonious, happy, and mutual trust relationship.

The study entitled "SpILL the Tea, Honey: Going Predicts Well-Being in Same- and Different-Gender Couples" monitors 76 couples. The researchers used the Electronicly Activated Recorder (EAR), a small tool that randomly records daily conversations.

As a result, the average participants spend about 38 minutes per day, and nearly 29 minutes of them are done with the couple.

"Whether you acknowledge it or not, everyone listens to it. The gossip is everywhere," said Chandler Spahr, lead author of the study, quoted from the New York Post page.

According to senior researcher Megan Robbins, gossip can bind to relationships. For example, after returning from the show, couples often talk about the people they meet, either in a funny tone, sneering, or full of praise.

'Gosip negative with your partner after the party can sign that your bond is stronger than with friends at the party. While positive gossip can prolong the fun moment, explained Robbins.

The study also found the habit of trying to help couples feel like a team, which ultimately increases trust, closeness, and satisfaction with the relationship.

Relations expert Dr. Shamyra Howard asserted that the gossip referred to here is not slander or spreading lies.

"Whether it's light gossip, comments about culture, or just sharing everyday stories, the key is to building a point of view that only the two of them have. That's what keeps the relationship strong," he told The Post.

Interestingly, this study does not distinguish positive, negative, or neutral gossip. The most important thing is the process of sharing perspectives with your partner.

If it's not the type of person who likes to stick to it, Dr. Howard suggests several other ways to maintain emotional and social closeness, such as:

- Stories about your day, including small things that surprise you.

- Watching movies or listening to podcasts together and then discussing.

- Recall special moments and plan activities together.

- Talk about the little things you guys are looking at around.

- Throw random topics and discuss them together.

So, if all this time you and your partner like to exchange gossip after meeting friends or family, don't feel guilty. It could be, that's the secret spice that makes the relationship closer.