6 Tips For Children To Be Open To Parents

JAKARTA - Not all children can be open to their parents. They don't necessarily tell what's going on outside the house, like his fights with his friends, his stories are not accepted at football clubs, or whether he's a popular kid at his school, and so on.

In fact, openness of children is important for parents. By always listening to children, parents have key information to determine their child's development. In addition, it is also easier for parents to enter emotionally to direct their children.

Dr. Ron Taffel, Ph.D., parenting expert and author of Nurturing Good Children Now, reported Parenting.co, Friday, January 31, provides several ways parents can do to open children in communicating and engaging in active conversations with them.

You find it difficult to make your child want to tell stories? Maybe because he feels uncomfortable getting questions from you that seem formal and very stiff. You think that chatting with your child is a very serious thing that has to be done by looking into each other's eyes. Parents may argue, when looking into their child's eyes, they can find out if their child is honest or lying.

In fact, you should know that some people feel intimidated by the conversation between each other. Talking between activities such as when you are driving to pick up school, while cooking together, or while eating can make the atmosphere more fluid. Children are also more free to tell you.

The key to openness is not changing what cannot be changed. Yes, children have a communication habit that can be said to be difficult to change. If your child is the type of child who actively talks in the morning, then take advantage of this golden opportunity to talk to him. However, don't do it if your child is someone who easily chaotic his concentration gets ready in the morning. Getting him to chat will only damage his mood.

You also need to know the child's habit of answering questions. There are children who need time to think before answering. When he is silent, it doesn't mean he doesn't want to be open. So don't be questioned and give him time. If your child is someone who is very serious before all the work is done, try to talk to him before he sleeps when all the tasks have been completed.

When he talks, he always focuses on the story from start to finish. When finished, ask a question like, "So what? What happens next? or Who can end up doing it? as a sign that you are interested in the story. This helps children feel listened to and interested in telling stories to you again at a time.

Respond to your child with real emotions. You can do moves such as nodding your head, pinning your forehead, thinking, or recalling his emotions to validate his feelings. They will like it when they get a response like, Hmm..., Mama knows you must be very upset, right?

Praise them too for the good things they do like, Wow, you said it's to defend your friend who is being chased by a classmate? Mama/Papa is very touched by your words. When the children feel their feelings are understandable, it will be easier for them to be open.

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However, parents also have problems and are not always perfect. Instead, it will make the child more sure to open up. They will tell their day as well as fighting with friends and other problems.

After the kids tell the story, you can give advice. But be careful in doing it. Try to say it briefly and wisely. Avoid the impression of intimidation and talking for too long. It actually makes them embarrassed to tell stories again.

What needs to be considered is that you are only enough to provide advice, not make decisions. Let him find his own way to resolve his own conflict. Suggestions that touch or meet his needs will make him always think about coming to you every time there is a problem.