Slowing Down, According To Experts Can Help Improve The Quality Of Coupled Relationships
YOGYAKARTA In a sat-set life, it must be responsive, and fast often makes us escape what is to be considered. As in a coupled relationship, a person may not really listen carefully when his partner talks about important things. According to author and psychotherapist
Slow down, open up opportunities to listen, empathize, and respond more clearly and with concern. Sharp, explained, the brain responds defensively to the threats it feels. A survival mechanism that activates a response to fight, run, or freeze when in a dangerous situation.
"Although it needs to be fast at certain times, this reflex blocks open communication," Sharp wrote as quoted by Psychology Today, Friday, November 15. Well, when we get used to sat-sets and everything is fast, we are in a hurry and often react impulsively, increasing tension. Slow down or reduce speed, useful in the relationship described below.
When slowing down, we can focus on listening and listening to what our partner actually says. Listen in depth, creating emotional security where both people feel understood. Slowing down also helps understand every word and non-verbal signal that allows you to respond wisely.
Activities with slow speeds, giving neural opportunities to calm down. So it's important to manage time, when to work fast and slow down. It's important to know, in calm circumstances it allows us to handle stress constructively. This arrangement allows us to face challenges more clearly and avoid spontaneous reactions that can lead to quarrels or misunderstandings.
Not in a hurry to make decisions, giving space to understand perspectives more clearly and openly. Instead of making decisions quickly but missing, please pause for some time to understand each other with your partner. It also increases our capacity to empathize.
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Sharp's advice to slow down useful in relationships, is done in several ways. First, stop for a moment before responding to your partner when in a conversation. Second, practice actively listening, and third, schedule time alone without any outside or even work disturbances. Fourth, engage in full attention and give physical touch. When there is a misunderstanding, take a moment to talk with your partner what the cause is. Close Sharp, slowing down may seem simple, but it turns out to have a positive impact on a couple relationship.