By Not Imposing Of Self-Imposition, Distributing Recombination Of How To Recover Relational Trauma

YOGYAKARTA A person may grow up in a family that focuses on how to survive so that they experience relational trauma and challenges in their life. Those who experience it, may find it difficult to behave without forcing themselves. According to psychiatrist Annie Wright, LMFT., people who often force themselves are often overwhelmed with their nervous system. Why is that?

It's important to say it's not in accordance with self-constraints. Because it's related to an overwhelmed nervous system. Well, pretty good parenting, Wright's advice, it's important to learn how to be gentle to ourselves. With parenting, then one will respect the boundaries sent by the body and the feeling of self.

You can say it doesn't match what you can. For example, if you are afraid of heights, you can choose another game in the park other than playing cargo. This will be more fun and in the end you will know your boundaries.

Re-carrying is a term that Wright used to describe how adults recover relational trauma and how to be themselves. This designation also takes the idea of psychiatrist and pediatrician Donald Winanticott. He puts forward about the concept of mother who is quite good and means adjusting, remembering, and providing for a child but also sometimes fails. The failure in the context of the term re-parenting is positive, because then one can learn certain ways according to the child's development.

This idea can also be an antidote to the idea of 'perfect parents' and we also can't be perfect when honest to be yourself. In fact, someone is not always okay. But the responsibility of taking care can still be fulfilled by treating yourself as a good parent with all the situations accepted.

Recarrying, according to Wright, is good enough to recover relational trauma. Recarry does not mean blowing fear and terror out of control. This method is not by pushing ourselves. For many people who come from relational trauma history, doing difficult things and pushing themselves beyond the line is not an advantage over growth.

The simplest way to learn to grow self-esteem or recover from relational trauma, is to say no to what feels too difficult. That way, it can open up opportunities to explore the ability according to self-capacity. In addition, considering self-capacity also supports restoring relational trauma.