Experiencing Burnout Dating? Do These 3 Things to Overcome Saturation of Dating with a Partner

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JAKARTA - Fatigue or in a fancy term, burnout occurs when you are required to exceed your resources and capacity to fulfill them. Burnout can occur at work, at home, or in a relationship.

A sign that someone is experiencing burnout dating is a feeling of boredom with the people or the surrounding environment that leads to apathy. Also, it's hard to be present in the present, joy is lost, and feelings of emptiness often arise.

The modern dating model where people often change partners can cause burnout. In fact, a study conducted by Singles Reports, reported by Psychology Today, Wednesday, August 9, found that 78.37 percent of adults aged between 18-54 years have experienced burnout during online dating.

So, if you are one of the many people who feel bored dating, consider the following three tips from Roxy Zarrabi, Psy.D., a clinical psychologist.

1. Take a short break from dating

If you're feeling burnt out, this is the perfect time to take a break from dating. Forcing yourself to try harder when you're tired will only add to the stress. A certain emotional capacity is required to form a sincere relationship with someone. And if you're not in a stable emotional state, it's best to pause for a while.

Consider spending time engaging in activities that help recharge you during your downtime.

2. Assess what aspects of the dating process are draining

The next tip for overcoming dating boredom is to spend time evaluating what aspects are the most draining when dating. For example, instead of forcing yourself to go on several dates a week or constantly scrolling through dating apps. Consider scheduling dates and using dating apps when you have more energy and are ready to meet new people.

After knowing what makes you burnout dating, try to arrange a solution. For example, decide to meet only two or three people a week to avoid feeling tired. Or only use dating apps once or twice a day for a set amount of time.

This solution allows you to save energy. So that you have enough capacity and energy to connect with the right partner.

3. Rethink your need for dating

Knowing what you need in dating helps you navigate your goals and prevent burnout. Try writing a list of five of your needs for dating. Using this list as a guide can help you date with the right intentions and avoid spending extra energy on people you're not compatible with.

Although it's not immediately clear if someone can meet your needs. But some initial conversations or first dates can help give you that information.