By Managing Situations And Orientations, Everyone Can Feel Happiness

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YOGYAKARTA Many unwanted situations occur. If you don't manage emotions, it can affect the level of happiness we feel. But is there a way to manage situations and orientation of emotions to make them happier? Yes, according to Thomas Henricks, Ph.D., professor emeritus sociology at Elon University says that everyone is able to regulate combinations of feelings, thoughts, and behaviors more focused.

If you think too much about the past and the future, worry, anxiety, and regret can arise, while being in currently' also needs a definite orientation. Of course, we need to get to know negative emotions such as anger, fear, depression, sadness, and shame to understand ourselves and others. Furthermore, avoid giving negative emotional opportunities to dominate your happiness. This is how emotional management can make you authentically feel happy without suppressing feelings.

Mihaly Csikszentmihaly, a positive psychologist, argues that finding happiness seems to require arrangements where we can operate in a focused and creative way. Launching Psychology Today, Monday, April 3, challenges that are too difficult can cause anxiety and easily make us bored. But we have the best chance of enjoying what can be done as can a tennis player, rock climber, and golfer. They train to self-control in all situations on the ground.

Henricks advises, find a situation where we become the best of us. That means not only choosing and managing the right activities but also meeting people who stimulate and support you.

Everyone has their own perception of how the world works. Certain events often make us react and involve emotions. But there is hope that needs to be supported so that orientation management is important. To be sure, Henricks' message, we must keep our dreams even though we are disturbed by fear. This means that we need adjustments from orientation in the midst of a situation that always changes dynamically.

Interpretations need to be managed when receiving comments from others. Sometimes they describe things directly. But it can also be expressed with jokes, little fun, criticism, tactics, or other ways. Although it is not easy to read non-verbal or verbal behavior, we need to understand things. Sometimes it feels dark or not understood so that it invites negative thoughts. But not infrequently, wise comments or light comments are also interpreted severely. That is, it is necessary to interpret events that are experienced appropriately.

In essence, the three ways to manage the situation, orientation, and interpretation above make a person generous and act according to capacity. That way, life always grows and emotions are only markers that do not limit the steps to achieve happiness.