Have A Cool Couple Makes Heartache? Here's A Trick To Deal With It
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JAKARTA - Having a partner who is indifferent and insensitive can certainly make you annoyed and hurt. Actually, a indifferent partner does not mean they don't love you anymore. They have their own way of loving your partner. And as a partner, you are required to be good at dealing with it. Because if not, it can cause misunderstandings and even trigger quarrels. So, how to deal with a partner who is less concerned? Check out the reviews, compiled from Psychology Today, Tuesday, March 28.

When a indifferent couple pulls away from you for a while, then pursuing him will most likely make him even more attractive. No matter how hard you try to chase him, keep him in space and tell him that you are always with him.

People who have a indifferent attitude to their partner are actually sensitive to criticism. It's better to ask what you want than complain about what you don't want. For example, if your partner doesn't call in two days, instead of complaining, tell him you want to make contact with him every day. Ask if he wants to try it for a week.

Usually when someone has an assumption of something, that person will collect evidence to support the truth of his views. For example, if you think an indifferent partner doesn't care, you will consider all the actions he takes as a form of concern as a failed act.

To avoid negative narratives, try to find out more about your partner. Ask what he values and is most valuable in life. Find out what's bothering him and what he wants you to do differently. Listen without judging.

Some people with indifferent attitudes may grow up with demands to live in a certain way, coupled with ultimatums when they fail. So as a partner, it would be nice not to repeat this attitude.

Although it may be difficult when the couple looks stubborn, cannot be reached or be underestimated, but demanding change or threatening to leave the relationship will most likely only strengthen their indifferent attitude.

Cuek is not an easy character to change and you have to be patient with the process. You can't force him to change right away. Let him process slowly. You can also enjoy the process until you feel the changes he made to you.

The best thing you can do is accept and try to understand yourself. Everyone has their own traits and you have to understand their lack of attention. By understanding it, you will be more able to accept your partner's shortcomings and advantages completely.


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