The Country In The BDSM Sex Dimension

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Welcome to join the Writing Series. In the next week, we will discuss BDSM (Bondage / Discipline, Dominance / Submission, Sadism and Machosism). Is it true that BDSM is part of sexual perversion? How do BDSM couples enjoy this type of sex? Should the state intervene in regulating the sexual dimension of its people? Here it is, "In the BDSM Sex Dimension".

The Family Resilience Bill is in the spotlight. The legislation is considered excessive because it touches on the most private dimension: sex. One of the regulations contained in this regulation is the prohibition of sexual activities, sadism and masochism, which are part of Bondage and Discipline, Sadism and Masochism (BDSM). BDSM is sexual activity which in its actions uses fantasies of domination, sadism and masochism. Usually, this activity is carried out on the basis of an agreement about the limit of pain between the two parties. Remember the sex scenes in the film Fifthy Shades of Gray? This prohibition on sexual activity of sadism and masochism is regulated through the Family Resilience Bill article 85 paragraph 1.In this article, sadism, masochism is equated with homosexual (male-male relations), lesbian (relationship women with women) and incest in the category of sexual perversion. The article reads: Article 85 Paragraph (1):

What is meant by "sexual deviation" is sexual urge and satisfaction which is shown to be unusual or in unreasonable ways, including among others:

a. Sadism is a person's way of getting sexual satisfaction by punishing or hurting the opposite sex. Masochism, the opposite of sadism, is a person's way of obtaining sexual satisfaction through punishment or torture from the opposite sex. C. Homosex (men and men) and lesbians (women and women) are social identity issues where someone loves or likes other people of the same gender. Incest is a sexual relationship that occurs between people who have blood relations in a straight line down, upward, or sideways, by the same age, sexual relations, and relationships that are prohibited by their religion or other applicable regulations.

Scenes in the film Fifthy Shades of Gray (IMDB)

We tried to contact several proposers for the Family Resilience Bill to explore their rationale. This bill was proposed by Sodik Mudhajid from the Gerindra Party faction, Netty Prasetiyani and Ledia Hanifa from the PKS faction, Endang Maria Astuti from the Golkar Party faction, and Ali Taher from the PAN faction.

Amongst all, we were able to contact three of them. Unfortunately there was no meaningful answer from Sodik Mudjahid, Ledia Hanifa, or Ali Taher. One of the three stated that currently they are being asked to be silent, not allowed to give any statements about the draft law, let alone to the media.

However, based on the press release thrown by the proponents of the Family Resilience Bill, it was explained that sadism, masochism, homosexuality, lesbianism, and incest are dangerous sexual deviations and must be watched out for. Unfortunately, the release did not explain the basis of their thinking. "Sadism, masochism, homosexuality and incest are forms of sexual perversion which are generally known to harm, physically and psychologically injure, and even lead to the death of family members," wrote the proposers in their release. we quote, Friday, February 28. Grounds of thought We interviewed a sexologist dr. Haekal Anshari, M.Biomed (AAM) regarding the understanding of sexual activity sadism and masochism in BDSM. Sadism, Haekal said, is a way to get sexual satisfaction by hurting your opponent or partner. While masochism is the opposite. The perpetrator achieves pleasure by being tortured by his opponent or partner. He also explained that sadism and masochism can be sexual deviations when only one partner enjoys sexual relations. "But if the two of them meet (the sadism meets masochism) and practice BDSM, then both of them can no longer be said to be deviant," said Haekal, contacted Wednesday, February 26. The reason cannot be said to be a deviation because in practice no one feels sick or hurt during sexual activity. In addition, their sexual needs and fantasies are fulfilled as a result of these activities. "Why add BD (Bondage and Discipline) because they usually use the rope to bond. And the bond is to stimulate, not hurt and they have limits," explained the sexologist. These proposers included the ban on BDSM for fear of causing domestic violence (KDRT), Haekal denied. Because, BDSM and KDRT are two different things. Given that the couple has an agreement about pain. After all, it is impossible to look into the dimension of sex through the perspective of legislation that is regulated in the life of the state. In terms of agreement, it usually contains what can and should not be done in sexual activity. As to what the limits are, only the partner knows himself. "When the sadism and the masochism practice BDSM, the partner does it based on the consent and agreement of each party. Even sexual activity that is carried out should not cause pain or even death," he said. .

Quoted from Psychology Today, sex researcher Michael Castleman said BDSM sexual behavior is often associated with violence and strangeness. In fact, according to the man who spent 36 years researching sex, BDSM is a belief.

"When trust trumps the possibility of danger, the result can be very intimate and erotic," he explained. In his writing, it is also explained that BDSM consists of several terms, such as dominance and submission-domination (DS).

In DS, one partner has control over his partner. Then there is sado-masochism (sadism and masochism / SM) which involves spanking, whipping, or other kinds of erotic sensations. And another one is slavery and discipline (bondage and dicipline / BD) which involve restraint. Even though it is considered heretical and inhuman, for its fans this is actually called the most loving, nurturing, and intimate form of human contact. Moreover, in BDSM activities, the perpetrators always pre-set the rules of the game with clear and intimate communication, which creates a special erotic emotional bond.

Next Article: Examining the DPR's Narrative on BDSM as Sexual Deviation