Confidence Problems Result In Vitality Problems

Ilustrasi (Ilham Amin / VOI)

Jimi's story in "Strong Drug Suggestive Opium" clearly illustrates the suggestive nature of the use of strong drugs and the effects of dependence. If Jimi's addiction is an extreme case, this time our article will take you to a more basic cause, of why men take strong drugs. As it turns out, there is a self-created problem of self-doubt by men. Here it is, continued VOI's signature Series, "Strong because of Medicine".

Zoya Amirin was so enthusiastic when she met us at Tea Addict, Melawai, Kebayoran Baru, South Jakarta. He knows the topic of conversation with us will be very inspiring. In Zoya's eyes, a mistaken viewpoint is maintained about sex. The point of view that creates a sex life is distorted and must be addressed immediately.

According to Zoya, men have long since put themselves in the wrong position in sex life. For example, by considering sex as a personal responsibility. Seeing sexual activity as an activity for which they are responsible is a big mistake that is nurtured and has finally strengthened in the mindset of many men today.

"Why do I agree to this interview because I want to reinforce the myths that occur. So that self-doubt is something men have to process regularly," said Zoya, who is a sexual psychologist, Friday, January 10.

"Every man relatively believes, when it comes to bed affairs, 'as a man I have to know better, I have to be better, I have to be better in bed.' It's in all men's minds, "Zoya added.

This kind of mindset not only encourages men to seek instant pathways through stimulants and strong drugs. In some cases, men who are immersed in a lot of insecurity are often driven into deviant sexual behavior. Go to localization, for example. Zoya admits that she often finds men who come to brothels to face their first sexual experience.

"Most men, when they are teenagers, they want to learn to have sexual relations, yes to sex workers. So, when they have intercourse, they know, they are considered capable, understanding and good at it," Zoya said.

Maintain mistakes

Zoya breaks these mistakes into three things. First, about domination. As explained above, many men consider themselves to dominate sexual activity. In fact, according to Zoya, quality sexual activity comes from the cooperation of men and women.

In ideal sex relationships, the roles of women or men are equally crucial. The two of them need to "work together" to reach orgasm. There is an atmosphere to be built between boy and girl. There is a comfortable atmosphere that needs to be created for relaxation of the mind.

"This process makes him (male) feel manly if he can control it all. But, unfortunately, if it's only biology that can be controlled with drugs, that's okay. But, don't forget that the whole about sex is about what is You think, about how you feel, "Zoya said.

Zoya Amirin (Irfan Meidianto / VOI)

The next issue is duration. In general, men perceive duration as the number one thing in sex. This is not entirely true. Duration is a standard established to identify sexual problems. There are certain times that a male and female pair must maintain during sex. However, most important of all is accuracy in penetration.

Regarding the duration, we met a sexologist, Doctor Boyke Dian Nugraha. He pointed to the number five minutes as the minimum standard of quality sex. And of course, duration is not the ultimate measure. During that time, there are at least 20 to 40 times the penetration - the movement back and forth - that the partner must achieve.

"But, if at least five minutes should be okay, safe. Why? Because in five minutes, 65 percent of women have orgasms. Then, in seven minutes, 75 percent (women orgasm). Then, nine minutes, 90 percent (women orgasm), "Boyke told VOI.

"So, the duration is according to that. But because (many people) lack of exercise, consume less healthy food, the duration is shorter. What other people know as part of erectile dysfunction is premature ejaculation, especially when they are less than three. minutes, but experienced ejaculation, "he added.

The third case is finding a way out. Many strong drugs are chosen as a shortcut for someone out of sexual problems. Boyke and Zoya agree, the move was wrong. For Zoya, for example. He identified most sexual problems in men occur due to psychological factors. And strong drugs, clearly not the right solution.

"So, say, 'it's okay, this time I failed, it's okay. It's okay I failed but I find out (why failed) ... So that tomorrow I can enjoy my sexuality and satisfy my partner. I'll find out how the way, "Zoya said.

For Boyke, improving life patterns is key. Boyke himself admits that he continues to prioritize natural behavior changes to deal with the vitality problems of patients who come to his clinic: the Couples Clinic. Even if there are treatments that need to be done, Boyke will prioritize physiotherapy and the use of herbal ingredients.

"So we are more concerned with counseling, implementing a healthy lifestyle, herbal medicines, physiotherapy are one package so that we are not dependent on drugs," said Boyke.

VOI team interview with Doctor Boyke (Irfan Meidianto / VOI)

In this day and age, strong medicine arises out of necessity. Times encourage people to live with unhealthy patterns. Routines and busyness get rid of exercise habits. Human traffic and the development of transportation magically do not increase human mobility, but reduce it. These kinds of things also affect men's sexual abilities.

"So, you see, men in Indonesia are no longer healthy. Their lifestyle is unhealthy. First, their food. Moreover, millennial workers who come home that night, the food is definitely instant," said Boyke.

"Then, he lacks exercise. Especially in Bekasi. He lives around Jakarta, he doesn't have time to come home at night. Then the food. Then the stress is prolonged," Boyke added.

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