7 Mindsets That Experts Say Help Sexual Life Better

Illustration of mindset for sexual growth or sexual growth for sexual life is better (Freepic)

YOGYAKARTA Before acting, consider and think about it first. This is a recommendation from a lecturer and writer from the University of Washington, Seattle, Nicole K. McNichols, Ph.D. Its recommendations are related to a partner's sexual life, which if reviewed may potentially have problems and even accumulate undiscussed. Nichols mentions a term sexual growth' referring to how couples overcome differences in sexual desire, different sexual preferences, unsatisfied sexual expectations, or sexual dysfunctions.

This problem is a challenge for every couple. Because of how to overcome it with regard to how a person grows better in his sexual life. McNichols recommendations, here are the mindsets that need to be built for sexual growth.

A study published in the Journal of Sex Research shows that people with sexual growth beliefs thrive in the presence of sexual problems because they are responsive and actively try to meet their partner's needs. In other words, they expressed curiosity, and they listened. They understand that the goal is not perfection, but learning and responding.

People with a sexual mindset grow, are not afraid to experiment. They realized that trying new things, whether it's a new position, a new location or entering toys could lead to the discovery of something fun or maybe awkward and unsuccessful. They celebrate win' and forget about failure.

Sometimes your partner does something that makes your partner feel dissatisfied. They miss sexual signaling or make wrong assumptions about what they want. This is natural and there's no need to worry as long as you give them the opportunity to hear and enter your feedback. Because turning away only turns promising learning opportunities into a sad experience.

Couples with the belief of sexual growth understand that sex can increase over time. In fact, many couples report that sex increases during relationships as partners begin to have a better understanding of their respective bodies and sexual preferences. Sexual satisfaction, especially for women, also relies heavily on emotional intimacy that takes time and trust.

People with a sexual growth mindset provide feedback during sex visually, verbally, and behaviorally. They communicate their sexual desires and are open about their curtility and fantasy. Note that not all of this information should be disclosed at once, especially if it makes you feel too vulnerable.

People with sexual growth mindsets are not afraid to become vulnerable to receiving feedback and changes, McNichols said. They can express their frustration, discomfort, and disappointment in a good way so that this problem can be resolved and addressed.

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People with sexual growth are willing to seek help when they need it because they understand that few permanent problems and effective treatments do exist.

That's the solution when dealing with problems in sexual life with a partner. Close McNichols, a solution is always there for someone who dares to find it.