Not Happy In Love Relations? Expert Says: Is This Cycle Installs An Unqualified Order

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YOGYAKARTA Almost everyone has hopes of happiness in their love relationship. But, according to experts, the ups and downs of love relationships are natural sometimes to feel unhappy. So is this a sign that you have to separate? Or can it be improved and the relationship feels fresh again?

At one moment, maybe you and your partner are out of communication. It may also be more frequent fighting than usual. It could also not feel happy because you are bored. Due to this situation, many couples give up and get out of a relationship. But according to a therapist, feeling unhappy in a relationship doesn't necessarily mean it's time to get out of the commitment.

According to licensed sex counselor and therapist Jessa wayman, MA, it's actually normal not to feel happy in a relationship from time to time. Obviously, reported by Psychology Today, Monday, February 13, everyone will not be 100 percent happy throughout their life. You may do activities to pursue your dreams. But that doesn't mean you won't have any days to feel stressed or even have no ambition at all.

Included in romantic relationships, relationships also have a cycle of ups and downs and it's natural to experience if you're not always happy. If you think about it, romantic relationships tend to go through a cycle of comfort and a cycle of growth. A cycle of comfort is a period where the relationship feels positive, steady, and automatic. When it comes to this cycle, we enjoy what happens and benefit from anything that has been done.

The cycle of growth, is a period when one or both couples are unhappy with something in that relationship. This is the time to require change, more effort, and grow. In this cycle, everyone who couples up needs to care about what a partner needs. In other words, feeling that something is wrong in the relationship doesn't necessarily mark having to break. On the other hand, kooman argues that basically all pairs will go through a period of dissatisfaction. When feeling this, challenges need to be passed and the excitement and comfort will follow afterwards.

It is important to understand, dissatisfaction must be responded to immediately and strived to be the opposite. Do not let the moment of boredom and unhappyness be left out of control. However, if there is a certain sign, as Orangman puts it, then it is time for you to consider separating.

"If your partner consistently doesn't want to come to the table to solve the problem so you're both happy, if they reduce your worries, if they embarrass you, if they don't show signs of caring for your well-being, then this is a situation that doesn't support the relationship continues."

His advice is to try to start an open conversation about you and what doesn't work out for you. In addition, sharing your worries without blaming yourself with the intention of listening to each other and solving problems together will help you to continue your relationship. From these recommendations, you can identify changes that can be taken so that the relationship will be happy again.