Parents, Here's How To Liken Emotions To Children

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JAKARTA - So far, you may think that you don't need to introduce the type of emotion and feelings to your child because they will know for themselves. In fact, that's not true.

Because, one of the reasons toddlers sometimes likes to cry or tantrum because they try to reveal something. So that your child can express his feelings, you need to introduce the right types of emotions and feelings.

For starters, launch Very Well Family, Friday, February 3, teach your children the names of feelings such as joy, anger, sadness, and fear. If your little one is 8 years and over, start showing him in more complex words such as frustration, disappointment, and nervousness.

After he starts remembering the word, invite the child to discuss how the character feels in his favorite book or TV show. While watching or reading, taking a break and asking the child "How do you feel right now?" Then, discuss various feelings that the character may experience and the reason.

Show children how to use words of feelings in their daily vocabulary. Example ways to express feelings by sharing your feelings too. For example, say, Mother/Father feels sad because you don't want to share toys with your friends today. Mother/Father is sure she feels sad too.

Every day, ask children how they feel today. Use a simple chart with smiling faces if it helps them choose feelings and then discuss those feelings together. Talk about things that affect your child's feelings.

Teaching children to be angry but not to hit. Children need to learn how to control anger so that they can resolve the conflict peacefully. Also teach how to deal with uncomfortable emotions in your little one.

Tell him to stay away or take advantage of calm times alone to regulate his emotions again. This can help him calm down rather than let him vent his emotions at the source of his anger that can lead to the punishment of the child.

Strengthen good behavior of children with positive consequences. Praise the child for expressing emotions in a socially appropriate way by saying things like, "Father/mother really likes the way you use words when you tell sister/brother that you are angry with her."

If you tell your child to use good words when angry. But children still watch you scream or scream when you get angry, then your teachings will not be effective so far. Example ways to be healthy in dealing with uncomfortable emotions.

Show moments when you feel angry or frustrated and say it out loud. Say, "Wow, dad/mother are angry because someone cancels a sudden promise." Then take a deep breath or exemplify other healthy skullcap skills so that your child can learn to recognize the skills you use when you get angry.