In Paired Relations, This Is A Contributing Factor To Solve Conflict

Illustration of factors that help resolve conflicts in pairwise relations (Freepik/wayhomestudio)

YOGYAKARTA Pair relationships that look harmonious are not meaningful without going through conflict. Each couple certainly has their own way of reconciling conflicts or differences in arguments. However, according to research, couples who are grateful for each other and grateful for more being able to deal with conflicts and their relationship is growing.

Fights, conflicts, and financial pressure exacerbate relationships. It can even quickly encourage bad behavior, such as insults or verbally hurt each other. Reported by Psychology Today, Monday, January 2, Barbara Greenberg, Ph.D. stated that some couples are committed to deciding to stay together even though they often argue.

Another finding from Greenderg as a clinical psychologist, is that couples stay together to find alternative sources of happiness and satisfaction outside of marriage. They spend less time at home and more work or other activities to divert from relationships. Couples who find a magical way, they can reduce the effects of ineffective quarrels. Even when they are under financial pressure, they still feel satisfaction in their relationship.

This was explained by Greenberg by citing research conducted by Barton and colleagues in 2022. The negative effects of conflict and financial pressure can be reduced by mutual gratitude and gratitude. This study used samples from 316 couples aged 21-75 years.

Couples who feel that their partner is grateful to them for experiencing greater relationship satisfaction than those who don't feel grateful. Interestingly, the felt gratitude reduces the negative effects of financial conflict and pressure. As important as found in this study, expressing gratitude does not have the same effect in reducing negative effects in conflict.

This gratitude and gratitude does not always have a positive effect. For married couples, the effect may decrease. What Barton can learn from the research, according to Greenberg, expresses a passion for couples can make everyone who couples respect positive things. Besides each partner positively affects each other. That is, positive things, even though it's simple, can be done in reconciling conflicts with partners.