Taking Mother's Breath, Taking Yourself First Just Handling Tantrum Children

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JAKARTA - Parents often feel confused when facing tantrum children is normal. The tantrum is classified as a big emotion, maybe the parents are not used to it when they were little.

Psychologist Alsi Marsha Tengker, BA,M Sc.,M.Psi advised parents to calm down before handling children who experience tantrums.

"So we see that when our child expresses big emotions, it is actually as confused and afraid as we were when we were little that we felt it. It is not easy to process it. If I may suggest, it is better for us to 'calm' ourselves before dealing with their children," said Marsha.

On that occasion, pediatrician who is also the Founder & CEO of Children dr. Mesty Ariotedjo Sp.A said children need to be introduced to the emotions they feel. Tantrum, according to him, is a process that begins with the lack of understanding of children in their emotions.

"The sooner the child recognizes, the better the emotional regulations," he said.

On the other hand, Principal Early Childhood Education Gianti Amanda, M.Psi. T, Montessori, Dipl argues, parents can actually convey the emotions they convey to children, but the portion is adjusted to the age of children.

"As parents, you can also convey calm. We can convey emotions, share them, but with a portion according to the age of the child," he suggested.

According to the Mayo Clinic, Tantrum is an expression of child frustration with her limitations or anger at not being able to get what she wants. Maybe children have trouble thinking about something and have no words to express their feelings.

Children generally don't plan to frustration or embarrass their parents. For most toddlers, tantrums are a way to express frustration. For larger children, tantrums may be a learned behavior.

If parents reward their tantrums with something their child wants, then the tantrums tend to continue.

Usually, the best way to respond to the tantrum is to stay calm. If parents respond with an explosion of anger, the child may imitate that behavior.Looking at a child to calm down also tends to make things worse.

On the other hand, try to distract your child. Give a different book, change locations, or make a funny face may help. If the child hits or kicks someone or tries to run onto the road, try to stop his behavior by holding him until he calms down.