Communication And Approval, An Important BDSM Aspect Owned In Conventional Making Love Style

Illustration of BDSM and conventional sex styles must have aspects of healthy communication and approval (Freepik/Drazenzigic)

YOGYAKARTA Making love is an important moment in a couple's life. Not a few couples dig up aspects of their sexual activities to be implemented in the realm of intimacy. Markos, Ph.D., an American-based clinical psychologist, says that many of his patients take therapy sessions because things related to intimacy with a partner are not as happy as they used to be.

From the consultation sessions of some of her patient's partners, she explained how to make love moments for couples who have long been committed to staying fun. Departing from BDSM's sex style,ore reviews two important aspects of making love, namely communication and consent or consent.

The sex style of BDSM (Nondage and Discipline/Dominance and Submission/Sadism and Masochism) is known to use tools such as whips, bundles, and eye coverings. But more than that, the dark' props and images of this style have important aspects also implemented in conventional sex styles. In essence, wrote

Many people view sex as a physical activity, nothing more than a quest for pleasure that meets your needs. But, according to her, the BDSM community implements sex with intelligence, creativity, body, and senses. With regard to bed games' BDSM with all the complexities of sexual activity, communication is mandatory.

Communication cannot be associated as a dirty talk. But discussing preferences and dislikes, boundaries, and fantasy are an important part of a healthy sex life.

In a study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, it was found that BDSM practitioners as a whole are more open to new, more thorough, less sensitive to rejection, and have a higher subjective well-being.

What needs to be communicated regarding sexual intercourse with a partner? Conversations about the deepest passions and desires that have been kept secret can open new dimensions in your sexual relationship. This can help sex style to establish safe words during sex.

The second aspect that can be taken from BDSM sex style for conventional style, is consent or consent. Agreement is considered general and must be established in sexual interaction. For example, if in BDSM a dangerous game must be done based on consent, either by dominant role or submission. What is the limit of both parties, should not be violated. Even using safe words in sex activities. This is also what must be built in conventional sex styles.

Close your arms, approval is not only about making sex safe, but also about confirming giving and receiving pleasure. Explicit approval of materials can build deeper sexual communication. This includes making you and your partner more assertive as a sexual partner.