JAKARTA - What would you do if your partner often hurt you emotionally? Should you ignore it and accept the pain as part of love? Or will you do something to stop it?
Some people think that being emotionally hurt is not as important as being physically hurt. For this reason, there are some women who choose to remain silent when they are hurt and think at least their partner doesn't physically hurt them. However, this thought is wrong. Emotional health is as important as physical health. And the thing that needs to be instilled in yourself is that no one has the right to hurt you in any way.
So, what to do if your partner continues to hurt you emotionally? Here are some ways you can try, launching Inspiring Tips, Wednesday, October 12.
Communication is very important in every relationship. The first step in solving problems in a relationship is talking to your partner. Who knows if your partner doesn't know anything about what you've been going through so far. Communicating about the dislike and hurt you have experienced for your actions can help prevent things you don't want to happen again.
Talking from heart to heart with a partner can also help solve problems. If he realizes the emotional pain caused, why not ask why he keeps doing it? Maybe your partner couldn't answer your questions right away, but by asking he could reflect on his actions so far and self-introspect.
If you still want to maintain your relationship, talk about solutions to this problem. Make your partner aware that their actions are not enough. You need to make sure he will correct each mistake in order to create a better and safer relationship.
Apart from your partner, the responsibility of the relationship also rests with you. Maybe the reason you keep getting hurt is the reluctance to compromise. Remember, you and your partner come from different backgrounds. That's why it's natural that you have opposing views and principles.
If no one wants to accept this difference and refuses to adjust, disappointment is inevitable. Therefore, you and your partner must decide to find a solution and be willing to compromise.
Are you the sensitive type of person? If so, then this could be your reason for being tortured. It's natural that you feel let down continuously. If you receive any severe disappointment, you will really be emotionally exhausted because he won't change in an instant.
For that, try practicing yourself to be a person who is not too confident. Continue to tell yourself that your partner doesn't hurt intentionally. Remember, your partner is not the perfect person and he has a different character than you.
In addition, you should also train to be more patient and understanding towards your partner. Since you have chosen him to be a couple, continue to learn to love him in its entirety, despite his confusion. Unless he has an affair, has verbal abuse, or any other serious problem he fully controls, give your partner time to adjust his behavior.
Sometimes, the only pain you feel is imagination. It could be because overthinking, causes fear of what can happen in the future. For example, you might think that he hurt you because he cheated. Because of this mindset, you become suspicious of his actions. Without trust and paranoid attitude, it will be difficult for you to emotionally stabilize when in a relationship.
If your partner realizes the emotional pain he causes but doesn't want to work together to improve the situation. Maybe this is a sign that he doesn't love you anymore. If this is the case, there's no point in maintaining a relationship. The best option is to move forward without a partner. Let yourself go of the shackles and take the time to heal yourself.
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