How To Avoid Toxic Positive Attitudes

Illustration of a toxic positive attitude (Unsplash/Amadeo Valar)

YOGYAKARTA Many people give false hopes in a positive language. This is crowded with toxic positive sentences. Based on research, some linguistic patterns on social media are toxic.

Launching Psychology Today, Wednesday, September 28, to avoid a toxic positive attitude, one needs to realize that there are sentences that shouldn't be spoken. The trick is to adjust expectations. One can also minimize the use of toxic sentences by being authentic.

The toxic positivity language that is often spoken, often includes the words 'hold on', 'trust', 'don't give up'. In addition, toxic sentences are often with the symbolic pattern 'X is Y', for example, 'You are a tough fighter'. That is, bringing together one thing with a symbol.

This language can prevent a person from accepting the reality experienced. It can even interfere with the ability of others to process negative thoughts and emotions experienced. For people who are struggling to minimize toxic positive sentences, here are the recommendations of psychologist Mark totaling, Ph.D.

By realizing how toxic toxic attitudes are, you can adjust expectations through communication. Although various experiences about sadness, chronic illness, and fatigue can result in satisfying conversations. But it can make a person feel disappointed and not heard.

Before commenting or responding, think carefully about the right words. It's better to use the phrase that starts with'me'. For example I'm sorry/sad/saddent because... when expressing mercy.

Understanding sentences that express mercy may not be easy. Especially if it is driven by good intentions. For example, phrases like 'hold on', 'you have this', or 'you are a fighter'. This sentence actually sends a signal to people that you are not interested in what they say.

Being authentic feels a bit risky at first. However, once you start using honest words, then people will be more comfortable. That is, being authentic can be a way to minimize toxic positive sentences.