Feeling Offended By People's Behavior Or Words? Try Conveying In 9 These Ways

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JAKARTA - Have you ever been offended by other people's words or actions against you? If ever, being in this condition is not fun. The heart feels erratical annoyance. Want to be angry but afraid to damage the relationship. Silence actually makes yourself uneasy and overthinking.

Learning how to tell someone they hurt you is the first step towards self-healing and making peace with circumstances. VOI reports Inspiring Tips, Wednesday, September 28, sharing tricks on how to deliver good things when you feel offended by people's behavior and words.

Before confronting others, it's a good idea to take the time to reflect on how you actually feel. There are some questions you can ask yourself. Are you really hurt? Why are you affected by what that person says or does? Do you have the right to feel like that? What can other people do to get rid of your hurt?

It's hard to treat someone well if you've been hurt. If dealing with it when you're angry, the situation may worsen with heated fights. For that, it's a good idea to pray first before doing anything. Take care of God to help you forgive others and approach them in a gentle and peaceful way.

Try to open your heart to forgive the person before he apologizes for hurting you. plenary is the first step to heal and make peace with the situation. Pray that God will touch your heart and give you the power to forgive.

Before talking to that person, make a plan regarding what you will convey when you meet. Convey the message without provoking the person to be defensive. A defensive attitude will only lead to an argument and may end in a bigger conflict. Therefore, set how you will convey the message without making other people feel attacked. In addition, use more polite and gentle words.

Once your heart is ready, let them know that you want to talk. Make an appointment to meet the person. Because it's not good to invite them suddenly, especially to talk about sensitive things like this. In addition, setting a schedule also makes them ready to listen to your condition.

In order not to get more cloudy, find the right time where you and that person are in a good mood. It is not recommended to face someone when you or that person is angry or stressed. Instead of solving problems, there is chaos.

When conveying, make the most objective conversation possible. Say things that offend you and why you feel offended. State the action or words that offend you. So that person can reflect on what they did at that time.

Don't think too much about what went wrong. Instead, give more time to be able to make peace and forget the past. Ensure that person you have forgiven him and that they are still valuable to you. Then, talk about how to avoid the same conflict in the future. Don't just focus on how other people should improve their behavior. Ask how you can be better friends, colleagues, or family too.

The best way to end a conversation is to demean yourself too. Ask them if there were times when you also offended them. Then, say "sorry" for all the past mistakes and convince them that you will be more careful next time.