Have A Different Way Of Disciplining Children From Your Partner? Here's How To Overcome It

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JAKARTA - Have you ever had a different way of disciplining your child with your partner? Relax, you are not alone. This is also the case for many couples in the family. Differences in disciplining children are one of the reasons couples fight most often after having children.

Differences in the way in disciplining children can have a negative impact. Dr. Susan Bartell, a psychologist in New York, USA, launched Parenting, Friday, June 17, asserting that consistency is something that is really needed.

Consistency requires agreement from all family members. Inconsistency will make children confused which rules they should follow. "Inconsistent discipline can actually reinforce negative behavior because your child will continue to do it in the hope that this time he won't get into trouble," she says.

Then, how to overcome the different ways of disciplining these children?

Make a compromise

Don't let the discrepancy between you and your partner show in front of your child. For that, compromise all existing differences. You and your partner can take positive things from each other's point of view. In addition, you and your partner can also share references from psychologists, pediatricians, or parenting media. Based on these records, develop a set of rules and consequences for disciplining children.

Avoid magnifying the problem

It should be realized that differences in views in nurturing and disciplining children are natural. Therefore, if the conflict is considered big enough, invite your partner to communicate to stop the conflict. Immediately step forward to find a solution.

Seiya-sama in front of the child

Ensure that what has been mutually agreed upon must be carried out consistently. You and your partner must agree in front of the child. The goal is that the child is not confused about which rules to follow.

Apart from this, the consensus also has another purpose. That is to give children a sense of security. Children see good parental relationships as a source of security for them. If children often see their parents fighting, they can feel anxious.

Open with new compromise

The rules and types of consequences that have been made also need to be evaluated. If within a certain period of time it appears that the regulation is less effective, then do not be too rigid. You and your partner can sit down together again to make alternate arrangements.