When A Child's Behavior Starts To Irritate, Do These 3 Things Before Scolding Him

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JAKARTA - The behavior of children is adorable. But not infrequently they also drain the patience of parents and provoke anger. But getting angry at children, instead of making things better, will actually make the condition worse. Instead of obeying you, children tend to be more violent.

Alison Escalante, MD, a pediatrician and author of media parenting from Naperville, Illinois, USA, shares three steps parents can take to reduce stress so they don't become angry with their children. This step, according to him, makes you reconnect with your children better, launch the Parenting page, Wednesday, May 25.

He named this step 3S, sigh, see, and start. When translated into Indonesian it becomes 3M (Breathing, Seeing, and Starting). This method according to Alison can increase the confidence and wisdom of parents and make them more connected with their children. How to?

Sigh

As soon as you feel the crater inside your chest about to explode explosively, immediately exhale. Instead of screaming, try to take deep breaths and exhale slowly. Make sure you exhale the air you inhale as slowly as possible. Slow breaths will calm you down and allow you to think more clearly.

See

When you become a parent, you are required to be more flexible. Not everything you hope for or plan for will go smoothly. For that, instead of getting stressed because of things that make you get out of control, try to get back in control. Look at your child, look at your situation, look at what you've done.

Start

Start listening to your child. Start thinking about replacing all of your plans with what might work. Start by finding out what's stopping your child from following what you're saying, whether it's because you said it in a vague, emotional way, or for some other reason. Most importantly, according to Alison, start accepting that you don't have to do everything perfectly.