Men Should Know, Avoid Making These 5 Mistakes When Making Love

Illustration of mistakes that men need to avoid when making love (Pexels/Anastasia Shuraeva)

YOGYAKARTA – Knowledge about sexuality and sex is often not understood. Especially with regard to romantic relationships between men and women that involve sexual activity. Julir Orlov, a therapist and expert has 25 years in his profession. He identified that the following five mistakes, need to be avoided and practice open sexual communication with their partners.

1. Assuming that women have a lower sex drive

Assumptions are often misleading, so communication makes every problem solved. Including the notion that women do not like or want sex as much as men. Although women have their own preferences, but every woman does not want bad sex.

If your romantic partner refuses, advises Orlov as reported by Your Tango, Monday, April 25, the first thing you should ask is how you can make it better. Sexual communication needs to leave the satisfaction of one alone but reach a peak for both.

Illustration of mistakes that men need to avoid when making love (Pexels/Gary Barnes) 2. Missing foreplay

Reproductive organs have a way of working, in addition to other aspects that build trust, openness, intimacy, and agreement. A woman enjoys the intimacy of being touched and caressed. Especially when making love, it's important to do foreplay so you don't feel excruciating pain during penetration. Foreplay is done to make it wet, which will biologically release the natural lubricant and make it easier to enjoy penetration.

3. Treats the clitoris like a penis

Women's bodies are different from men's, so avoid treating their genitals as if they were your own. So find out what touch makes your partner comfortable. Take your time so you don't feel rushed.

Orlov explained, most women enjoy orgasm through clitoral stimulation before vaginal penetration. It's not that you don't enjoy orgasms during sex, but communicate your partner's preferences. Which touches he likes and which ones he should not do.

4. Start and end sessions as quickly as possible

In lovemaking, there is a preference for quick sex because they don't have much time. Sometimes this preference is also chosen by a partner for variety. But when making love, you need to pay attention to your partner's needs completely. Orlov calls it foreplay that goes on 24/7, dividing roles so that the tired couple's 'leave me alone' impression can be better understood.

5. Not paying attention to partner's needs

Most men take the lead in sexual relations. And for some, even when women take the initiative to have sex differently, men direct the way they want. Sometimes it may be acceptable, but there is nothing wrong with trying to trust your partner.

In addition, as has been said above, that communicating sexually openly is important. That way you and your partner can make love comfortably, understand everyone's needs, fulfill these needs until they both reach the peak of pleasure.