Husband And Wife Sleeping Separately, Does It Affect Harmony? This Is The Expert's Explanation

Illustration of a married couple sleeping separately (Pexels/William Fortunato)

JAKARTA – Not always bad, husband and wife can sleep separately in some conditions. Distance, according to professor of philosophy and president of the University of Haifa, Aaron Ben-Zeév, Ph.D., can be talked about in different ways based on tempo, geography, and psychology. Even proximity is also related to time, place, and situation.

Temporary distance to create personal space

The feeling of wanting to be together, reported by Psychology Today, Friday, March 11, has intrinsic value. However, it does not rule out the need to create distance for personal space so as to allow fertile bodies to be together.

If you and your partner are temporarily apart, to survive requires patience, waiting, and the passion of love will grow in creating joy together.

Couples get the opportunity to enhance personal development

If you're wondering what the occasional benefit of not sleeping in the same bed or at home with your partner is, then Ben-Zeév gives you an idea. According to him, couples who live together or LDR have the same challenges in maintaining a harmonious relationship. Still about the distance, in an LDR relationship the partner gets greater benefits for increasing personal development and togetherness development.

Several studies have shown that communication in long distance dating is much more intimate. In addition, interactions are more positive and less argumentative.

Distance values are associated with higher levels of sexual satisfaction

A study conducted by Eliakim Kislev in 2020, linked the value of distance in romantic relationships and sexual satisfaction. The study concluded that couples living apart but together, for whom there was greater physical distance, showed higher levels of sexual satisfaction.

So can sleeping separately affect household harmony?

Common factors that cause couples to sleep separately include snoring, restlessness, parasomnias, frequent trips to the bathroom, or differences in sleep schedules. This factor has the potential to damage the quality of sleep, it can also damage the quality of relationships. Often, poor sleep also results in bad relationships.

In the above factors, separate sleep can be a solution and can improve the quality of the relationship. Even if spending every night in bed together actually reduces the level of arousal and novelty.

Ben-Zeév also writes that couples who are able to have a more flexible form of togetherness are more likely to stay together even if they sleep apart. In these situations, distance adds to our everyday perspective of romantic relationships. Although distance is not always positive and has its own risks, determining the right distance is necessary. That way you and your partner can measure and rearrange the balance of the relationship.