Emotionally Immature, Characterized By These 5 Things

Illustration of signs of immaturity in emotional aspects (Freepik/Gpointstudio)

JAKARTA – Emotionally, immaturity is known as a lack of introspection. This attitude is related to egoism, narcissism, and even bad in managing conflict.

Reported by Psychology Today, Monday, March 7, emotional maturity and intelligence involve self-awareness, empathy, self-regulation in communicating, collaborating well, being able to solve problems creatively, and finding resolutions to conflicts effectively. As a psychotherapist, according to Joyce Marter, LCPC. Mental immaturity makes a person less able to work for himself. Signs of mental immaturity, according to Marter.

1. Have a big ego

Everyone has an ego, Marter wrote. However, without control, a person often defends himself. In addition, the ego is also related to how to absorb and respond to conflict in relationships.

The big ego is also represented by the narrative of the victim. This is a form of low self-esteem, you know, Marter said. His advice, practice mindfulness techniques to connect with yourself. Practicing healthy ego release can reduce egotism too much.

2. Often blame others

Marter uses the 'doormat' analogy where their suffering is someone else's fault, not their own. She also refers to someone with emotional immaturity as a 'response diva'. Diva, according to Marter's presentation, they are never guilty.

3. Not completing responsibilities

Regarding the previous point, a Diva does not take responsibility. Not paying off responsibilities can damage trust, lack integrity, and hinder forgiveness. Marter's advice, respect and maintain your feelings to cultivate compassion.

4. Use defense mechanisms to protect yourself

We all use defense mechanisms sometimes, such as using intellectual narrative or dealing with rational reasoning. However, the defense mechanisms used to resist can signal immature emotions. Like not being able to accept reality, even though admitting it can make the situation better.

5. Lack of empathy

Putting yourself in the shoes and having the ability to recognize, understand, and validate emotional experiences is important. The reason is, that way a person can look at it from various points of view, not only from himself.

Those are signs of immature emotionality. A little advice from Marter can be done to improve themselves.