5 Tips For Overcoming Heartbreak After Divorce

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JAKARTA - One of the hardest things to ever experience in life is a broken heart. Whether left or left, feelings of sadness and loss are undeniable. However, keep in mind that heartbreak is just a preparation for getting more love once you've made peace with yourself.

Citing Yourtango, Wednesday, February 23, these are five ways to heal a broken heart.

Take time to feel the various emotions

Instead of trying hard to forget, try to allow yourself to feel all the feelings. Guilt, shame, anger, let these feelings flow. Give yourself time to grieve and decide when to get back up.

Remember, all of this is temporary. Whether sad or happy, nothing lasts forever. When you're aware that you're not denying your sadness, you're paying attention to the part of yourself that's hurting.

Don't look for an escape. Don't try to rationalize or justify your feelings by thinking about what went wrong. Don't let yourself go numb. Scream, cry, do whatever feels comfortable to you to express your sadness.

Practice respecting yourself

When you're in the process of forgetting someone you once loved, you can get caught up in judging yourself and blaming yourself for the breakup. In fact, you have done what had to be done. Even if there are regrets, try to forgive yourself. To be more calm, cross your right and left hands on your chest. Close your eyes and take a deep breath. Picture yourself and say “I forgive you, I love you.”

Be grateful for everything you have

Gratitude can change your mindset for better things. Gratitude allows you to receive more of what you want. When your heart is broken, it can be difficult to feel grateful for anything in life.

Start small. If the body is healthy, be grateful. If you have pets, be grateful for their unconditional love. If you have friends who are willing to listen to complaints about your ex-spouse, put them at the top of your list.

The way you think about is an important weapon you have for diverting your energy and emotions. Start journaling every night before bed and write down five things you are grateful for. Then, read the list in the morning before you get out of bed to start the day.

Find lessons from relationship failure

Life always provides lessons. So is the experience of failed relationships. Learn lessons from the breakup of your relationship. To make it easier, write down all the thoughts that come to mind about your ex-spouse and what lessons can be learned during your relationship. Take the good, and throw away the bad.

Create new routines and memories

One of the best ways to heal a broken heart is to rebuild a life that was shattered some time ago. With or without it, life must go on, and don't let the departure of someone who doesn't love you stop your steps and opportunities to be happy.

You can start rebuilding your life with hope and enthusiasm, focus on your career, spending time with friends, visiting your favorite coffee shop or anything else that can help create new habits and routines. Create fun new memories and life must go on.