According To Psychologist Rose Mini, This Is The Cause Of Children Growth With The Nature Of Violence

Child psychologist from the University of Indonesia Dr. Rose Mini Agoes Salim, M.Psi. (Photo: Doc. Antara)

JAKARTA - Child psychologist from the University of Indonesia Dr. Rose Mini Agoes Salim, M.Psi explained several factors that can trigger and encourage children to grow up with violent properties.

The psychologist who is familiarly called Romi said parents who commit violence against children could make children look for other places to practice what has been observed or seen while in the family environment.

"And apart from violence from family or violence perpetrated by parents to children, there are also other things that can make him grow up to be a child who solves the problem with violence," Romi said, quoted from Antara, Saturday, February 25.

When the child feels that his presence is not considered, either at home or in the environment, then the child may look for other places where he can show power, dominance, or violence.

According to Romi, this could also be influenced by associations. Children who initially did not commit violence suddenly become violent because maybe he imitated anything his peers (peers) did.

"So there are so many causes, but that's why we have to start not to let parents start to commit violence against children at home," said Romi.

When a child has often committed violence, it is necessary to take a closer look at whether the child does feel uncomfortable in other places so that he needs a group of friends who commit the violence.

If children want to show their existence by committing violence against people, then this must also be seen again whether the concept of themselves owned by their children is quite good. For example, children feel that they have not excelled in school and feel they are not accepted at school so they need other places to show their existence.

"If he doesn't excel in school, actually he can excel, for example in sports, in art, and so on. But he doesn't see it and the people around him, especially his parents, don't show the child's strengths so what he gets an idea of himself may be something negative-negative," he explained.

If this happens continuously, then self-esteem or self-esteem of children tends to become negative and not confident. On the other hand, children become confident if they can show their ability to dominate others.

"To overcome this, we must help from showing him that this child has other potentials besides that he is a person who likes to fight and so on," Romi explained.