Notes From Mario Dandy Satrio's Case: Beware Of Antisocial Behavior And Free Association In Youth

JAKARTA From the case of persecution involving Mario Dandy Satrio (20), Shane Lukas (19), and Agnes Gracia Haryanto (15) there are several things that should be an reflection. Parents must realize that the behavior of teenagers is now much shifted, tends to deviate from the norms that apply in Indonesian society.

The first is related to empathy. This is the ability to understand the feelings of others, accept their point of view, and appreciate the differences in people's feelings about various things.

The behavior shown by the three teenagers clearly shows they lack this ability. Sutarimah explained that the Head of the Unit Center for Life Spanypal Development of the Faculty of Psychology, Gadjah Mada University, called it an antisocial behavior.

Mario brutally beat the victim David Ozora (17). In fact, the victim did not fight back, and even wanted to carry out Mario's orders to push up and win in front of him.

Even though he was lying down, Mario kept kicking and stepping on the victim. After kicking, he celebrated like a footballer who scored.

Shane is busy documenting the action through a cell phone camera while provoking Mario, "It's really nice, playing football huh?"

However, when he found out David was lying motionless, Shane just intervened, "Come on, already!"

"I'm not afraid I'm a dead child," Mario replied arrogantly to Shane.

Instead of helping, Agnes actually witnessed her lover's action, Mario casually stood up smoking.

The series of actions can be seen in the reconstruction scene held by Polda Metro Jaya at the crime scene, Green Permata complex, Jakarta on March 10, 2023.

Antisocial behavior is a disorder of self-adjustment to the social environment as indicated by violations of other people's norms and rights. This arises because of the parenting style of parents who do not pay attention to the child's emotional growth since childhood so that children lack empathy.

"Usually, there is a certain experience that children receive during parenting. The function of a family that is less like a father and mother who do not act properly, then children who get neglect in the family, harass in the family, and treatment that should not be accepted by children does make children's empathy not develop," said Sutarimah as reported by the SuarAcademia POdcast.

For this reason, the family must be able to play an optimal role. Fulfill the child's emotional needs at home. Research conducted in 1987 by Mark A.men show that children whose emotional needs are met by those closest to them have a greater sense of empathy.

Small examples when children experience problems. Attention and warm hugs from family and parents can indirectly be a form of teaching empathy to children. Related to this, parents must be able to be good listeners and most importantly must be able to prepare special time to discuss and play with their children.

In fact, empathy is not an ability that a person has automatically since birth, but must continue to be honed and formed. Never mind children and adolescents with emotional conditions that tend to be unstable, even adults do not necessarily have high empathy.

Second regarding promiscuity. Smoking students are no longer foreign at this time. Research results from the Indonesia Institute for Social Development (IISD) with the Muhammadiyah Student Association (IPM) in September 2022 show that 27.7 percent of students at the junior high and high school levels in Indonesia have smoked. In fact, 10.67 percent of them are classified as active smokers.

They smoke the majority because of their stress, curiosity, and solidarity with friends. This, said Agus Suprapto, is very dangerous and can pose a serious threat to the nation's future.

The nicotine and tar content in cigarettes damages health. Nikotin has the effect of addiction, damages brain tissue, causes blood to easily clot, as well as narrows arterial blood clots. Meanwhile, tartable to kill cells in the respiratory and lung tract, increases mucus production and lung fluids.

Students who have become active smokers also tend to experience learning disorders, arrest problems, disturbances of anxiety, and mild depression.

"If lifestyle continues to dissolve, how can Indonesia have superior and competitive human resources," said Agus, while serving as Deputy for Coordination for Health Quality Improvement and Population Development of the Coordinating Ministry for Human Development and Culture (Kemenko PMK).

Moreover, one indicator of the success of human resource development in the 2020-2024 National Medium-Term Development Plan (RPJMN) is the decrease in the percentage of smoking at the age of 0-18 years from 9.1 to 8.7 in 2024.

Then about the news of free sex behavior that plagued Agnes.

Regardless of whether or not this behavior should also get more attention for parents.

Based on data, Head of the National Population and Family Planning Agency (BKKBN) Hasto Wardoyo in January 2022 said 74 percent of men and 59 percent of women at the age of 15-19 had sex.

One of the factors that cause free sex behavior is the family environment.

Lack of attention from family, makes teenagers tend to find a comfortable place to run away. Without parental supervision, teenagers will easily fall into negative things. Moreover, the current of information is no longer unstoppable at this time. The content of pornography is increasingly accessible.

Parents must provide understanding to children. Apart from not in accordance with Indonesian religious and cultural norms, free sex also affects reproductive and mental health.

Vulnerable to contracting sexually transmitted diseases. Not to mention that if you get pregnant outside of marriage, your mentality will be disturbed. Being embarrassed, considered a disgrace to the family, and threatened with dropping out of school.

The delivery process, said Hasto, is very risky, threatening the safety of mothers and babies.

"In the end, making the quality of our human resources very low. Sexual relations under the age of 20 are very risky relationships. So the advice, don't approach adultery. The state really expects the younger generation to become a quality generation as the foundation of the nation's future," said Hasto as quoted by Antara.