You Don't Have To Be Chocolate, You Can Give A Valentine's Gift According To Your Partner's Love Language

JAKARTA - Chocolate is often identified as a sweet gift to celebrate Valentine's Day. Giving a memorable and unforgettable gift to your partner is one of the best ways to show your love.

Actually, the price of a gift will not be a problem as long as we give the gift sincerely and think of him when we buy or prepare it. Jewelry, expensive watches, branded products, expensive flower arrangements, or imported chocolates might be the best gifts. Is it true?

In fact, a high-priced gift will make the recipient feel happy in no time. After the photo or video of the gift is uploaded on the recipient's social media, their happiness will decrease over time. There is no special meaning or memory stored in the mind of the gift recipient, especially if the recipient's love language is not "receiving gifts".

Certified matchmaker and CEO and Co-Founder of dating agency Lunch Actually, Violet Lim, shares tips for couples in choosing gifts as a way to show their love for their partner based on their respective love languages.

“I have several friends, there are even clients who attend training, where they have been married for decades but still feel unloved by their partners. This happens because they have different love languages, and we are often wrong in showing our love to our partner by expressing it based on our personal love language, not their love language," Violet said as quoted by ANTARA, Saturday, February 12.

A Valentine Staycation Gift Recommendation can be an option if the love language of a husband or wife is physical touch. Compared to giving gifts in the form of expensive items, the thing that is more important and memorable that people will feel with their love language is physical touch, namely physical closeness and intimacy.

Surprise him in the form of a staycation together, where you can spend time together, talk about many things while hugging, watching movies or series while lying down, telling stories about how your daily life is while playing with each other's hair, which will make your partner feel loved.

Plan a day without technology if your partner has a love language to spend time together aka "quality time". For someone with a love language spending time together, the moments you two spend together, whatever you do is the most important thing. To make them feel loved, plan a fun day together such as a picnic, visiting an amusement park, biking together, or viewing exhibits.

The surprise? You have to put your phone away all day long. This may seem trivial to you - but your partner will feel special when they know that you are only focusing on him or her.

Write a love letter by hand if the lover's love language is words and praise or "words of affirmation". As the name suggests, hearing or reading about how much you appreciate and love them is what makes your partner's heart flutter the most. Try writing them a love letter to let them know how much they mean to you or tell them what you like most about them.

Reading a simple “I love you” note or card can mean everything to people whose love language is words of affirmation and praise.

A handmade gift if the partner's love language receives a gift or "receiving gifts". If your partner's love language is receiving gifts, why not do something special and make a handmade gift? Make scrapbooks, homemade artificial flowers, knitted scarves, and so on.

The more effort you put into preparing this gift, the more they will remember it and feel loved. You will spend less money, but you will need more time to make the gift.

Homemade food if your partner's love language is an act of service. For someone whose love language is action, actions really speak louder than words. So for Valentine's Day, you can treat them to some homemade treats.

Your efforts to buy groceries, cook food, set the table with beautiful decorations, and clean everything up after it's all done will be a special memory for them.