6 Phrases that Sound Dismissive, Avoid so that Communication Remains Healthy

Illustration of sentences that sound disparaging and need to be avoided so that communication remains healthy (Freepik)

YOGYAKARTA - Healthy communication is one of the keys to maintaining relationships with your partner, family, friends, and colleagues. However, healthy communication is not only about speaking politely, but also choosing words that do not make the interlocutor feel underestimated. Without realizing it, some sentences that sound ordinary can actually create a condescending or condescending impression, thus triggering misunderstandings in conversations.

Journalist and communication expert Celeste Headlee reported on HuffPost, Monday, July 6, reported that condescending attitudes often arise when someone speaks in a way that shows himself to be superior. Meanwhile, psychotherapist Elisabeth Crain said that the habit can be influenced by insecurity, excessive ego, or because someone is not aware of how their speech is received by others. Here are six sentences that sound condescending and should be avoided so that communication remains healthy.

1. "Funny ya" or "Sweet, sih"

This sentence doesn't always mean negative. However, if it is spoken in a mocking tone or in a situation that belittles someone's efforts, the words can feel condescending. In everyday life in Indonesia, expressions such as "ih lucu, deh" or "polos banget, ya" can also give the impression that the interlocutor is considered less capable or less mature.

2. "Actually like this..." while immediately correcting

Giving an explanation is not a wrong thing. However, immediately cutting off the conversation to correct others can make you seem condescending, especially if they actually understand the topic being discussed. Before giving an explanation, try asking first if they want input or help from you.

Illustration of sentences that sound disparaging and need to be avoided so that communication remains healthy (Freepik)3. "The important thing is that you have tried"

This sentence can be a form of support if it is conveyed sincerely. However, in certain contexts, the words can sound like you doubt the ability of the interlocutor or think that his achievements will not be better than that. If you want to give appreciation, it would be better if you mention the efforts or results that they have specifically done.

4. "You just do it..."

Your intention may be to help by providing a solution. Unfortunately, using the word "stay" can make the problem that others are facing sound as if it is very easy to solve. In fact, everyone has different challenges, so advice will feel more rewarding if it is delivered without minimizing the difficulties they are experiencing.

5. "Ah, it's not a big deal"

When someone is telling you about their difficulties, they often hope to be listened to first. Saying that the problem is not something big can make them feel that they are not considered. Even though you have a different point of view, try to acknowledge their feelings before giving an opinion or solution.

6. "You won't understand"

This sentence can give the impression that the interlocutor is not able to fully understand the situation being discussed. As a result, they can feel humiliated and reluctant to continue the conversation. If the topic is quite complicated, it's better to explain it gradually or ask if they want to hear your explanation.

Why is the way of delivery also important?

In everyday communication, it's not just the choice of words that determines how a message is received. Tone of voice, facial expressions, and body language also play a big role in forming impressions. Even neutral sentences can sound condescending if delivered with a cynical tone or an attitude that shows a sense of superiority.

On the other hand, expressing opinions with empathy and respecting other people's points of view can create a more comfortable conversation. Keeping communication healthy does not mean you always have to choose the perfect word, but try to speak with respect and willingness to listen. That way, relationships with people around you will feel warmer, more open, and less misunderstandings.