A Form Of Dad Shaming That Fathers Often Experience

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JAKARTA - Mothers are certainly familiar with the term mom shaming? Usually the debate about mom shaming is not far from normal births or caesareans, direct breastfeeding or using formula milk, working mothers or mothers at home, and everything related to children. However, do you know that on the other hand, fathers also often get dad shaming, it can even be done by the closest people, including his own wife!

Don't get me wrong, fathers can also be stressed and have difficulties when they experience dad shaming. Because, like mothers, fathers who are having children for the first time are also still learning about many things related to children, from how to stop crying, change diapers, bathe children, choose food for children, and what to do when left alone with children. So, what are the common forms of dad shaming experienced by fathers? Let's find out!

Criticism of disciplining children

Do you know that many fathers feel awry. When he wanted to be strict to discipline his son, his father was labeled too harsh and fierce. However, when he is more relaxed and gives freedom, the father is also blamed for seeming to spoil the child. If it's like this, even fathers will be confused about how he really should behave.

Criticism of how to play with children

Many fathers do seem more reckless when playing with children. For example, swinging the child's body or even throwing the child's body into the air and then being caught. Even though the father still makes sure his child is safe and the child enjoys playing like that, the mother who sees it will panic and scold the father about how to play too much.

Even if you object, it's better if mom can also tell dad in a better way and not get angry right away!

Underestimating

Come on, admit, who often underestimates their husbands when asked to help with their children's affairs, such as bathing, changing diapers, washing children's equipment, cleaning toys, and so on? Without realizing it, you may often make remarks such as "Can't you just do that?" or "Oh, it's been a long time, don't you understand?"

You may be upset and don't mean to offend your husband. However, when his efforts do not get appreciation and are often underestimated, he might also be afraid to help take care of the children. Many fathers finally become insecure and even refuse to be involved in taking care of their children because they are secretly hurt.